Looking for advice from anyone with any useful/relevant experience please.
We're matched with a sibling pair. Met the kids & medical advisor & certain things came to light we hadn't been told previously:
-Doctor says v. Likely FAS & Kids both have number of facial features
- BM extremely low (lower than borderline) IQ
- some serious mental health issues which could have genetic ramifications suddenly get thrown in the mix too.
The kids are lovely & we are trying to weigh up whether this new scenario is still possible for us - bearing in mind we have no experience of supporting children or adults with learning difficulties or disabilities & last week we naively thought we were matched with two healthy NT kids. But I feel this happens a lot with adoption!
I'm hoping to hear advice from adopters of children with this potential level of need. How have they progressed through school & into their teens? Without any diagnosis is support still available? Have they been able to live independently? Would you do it again? Any other advice would be hugely appreciated as we have to make the right decision for the kids & us.