Sorry for long post...
As you may seen in my other posts me and my partner are doing "groundwork" on a couple of things like childcare experience and him quitting smoking (officially through gp so evidence) before we hope to make a formal application around june.
I feel a bit as though im stuck between a rock and a hard place. Ive been extremely unhappy in the job I've been in since last april. Before that i was with the same company for 8 yrs solid and employment history is consistent n stable without any gaps. Ive experienced and managed a lor of work stress in previous roles. However this is the first time ive been so depserately stressed and unhappy in a job that within a few months of starting i knew it wasn't for me.
The reason im very unhappy is that the atnosphere is awful - the team i work in have had a very chequered history with lots of unhealthy team dynamics and it is such a negative space to work in that its really affecting me outside of work. Im also under a huge amount of pressure workload wise without good management support. Added to that the commuting in and out of london is wearing me down.
Firstly for my own sanity and secondly because i want to be in a much better position to be available and flexible around my child's needs when we adopt i decided in oct before Christmas that i needed to find a local lower stress role that hopefully has an element of flexibility - ie flexi time, part time etc. The main thing is i obviously want to get stress levels down, have better work life balance n be able to be around for my child taking time out of work all together if necessary.
Ive had a few interviews but because of time of year and the fact im now looking outside of london there arent a lot of perm roles coming up (altho I have contacted a few agencies). In the meantime i am really unhappy and struggling to visualise how ill manage to carry on there if i cant find something else soon.
Our financial position is fairly good. We both earn decent money and we have savings in the bank which would mean we would be ok for a few months if i took a break from work. Ive decided something has to happen to change things and am contemplating having a set date in abour a montha time whereby uf i havent found anything i will then hand notice in and start temp work whilst i look for longer term work. I expext ill have a lot more energy to put myself into apps and get arouns for interviews (my current role swverelt restricts when im available for interview), and ill be in a much better space.
My constant worry is that anything i choose to do is going to adversely affect adoption plans and app in june. It may be that from reading forums i am getting overly paranoid but from what i read SWs see sny change in life as needing a break before going to apply. Im worried that despite the fact a local job change would be a really positive move and that financially we would be fine without my salary that on assessment they will view it as a reason to delay the app as they will see it as a change that we need to "settle into" as im guessinh will only be in job couple ms by that stage.
When ive called first4adoption before they've v much made it sound like wouldnt be an issue as its more about finwncisl stability but things i read on here make me feel in vreality it could be a problem n we'll get told to "come bk later". We've calreasy waited so long for this n are putting so much effort into preparation that im afraid ill be causing vus yet another delay.
So in your real life experience with process have any of you had similsr scenarios? Was a recent change of job before app seen as a reason to delay app? What are ths important things theyll focus on?
Sorry realise i prob sound a bit mad but not many ppl IRL to check out my concerns with. Really appreciate your input xxx
teekay88 · 17/01/2018 08:14
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