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First ever go of adoption after ivf

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Coolchick11 · 15/01/2018 22:31

I have had three failed attempts of Ivf and ready to start adoption process I think if I carry on with Ivf I think it would do me emotionally I would like meet people in the same people as me and any helpful advice would be grateful as don't really know what to expect

Cool Chick

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Coolchick11 · 15/01/2018 22:32

Same boat as me meant to say

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Laurajfindlay · 16/01/2018 07:18

I am in the same boat. We have had 4 rounds with 10 embryos in total. 3 miscarriages, one ectopic and I also think I have had enough. We are trying to decide between adoption and egg donation and I think it will be adoption but I'm really scared about whether I will be able to handle it! I don't have any great advice but I thought you would appreciate knowing there are folks in the same boat!!!Grin

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Coolchick11 · 16/01/2018 08:28

Ah thanks hun I have tried ivf with own eggs ivf with donor and adoption is the only thing that is keeping me saine to focus on we have three embryos left but with it so expensive to do it again we have called it a day on ivf for now I would recommend Spain for donor egg they have brill it's just with three failed attempt you know when the time to put it to bed thanks cool chick xx

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Coolchick11 · 16/01/2018 08:31

Adoption is best way forward for me i feel nervous about it all I have childcare qualifications and work with children on a daily bases but it's different when your bringing your own up

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Coolchick11 · 16/01/2018 08:38

You will be fine Laura it be hard work but if your great with children then you will be fine I have few friends that have adopted but haven't really told anyone ivf or adoption as i didn't want the poor cool chick card so haven't told anyone about starting the adoption either xx

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Laurajfindlay · 16/01/2018 09:01

It's just nerve wracking making the next choice! I know my decision. Just need to stop questioning myself. Must be hard keeping it all to yourself? Have you told your family yet?

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Coolchick11 · 16/01/2018 09:52

i told my immediate family from both sides mum dad hubbys dad my brothers hubbys bro and sister and my sister in law from my side they are all supportive with decision and agree i need to move on to something else to keep emotionally intact have you told your family yet
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whereisteddy · 16/01/2018 22:58

As an adopter, can I just say go for it. If you were happy to give pregnancy a shot, why not adoption? It's funny as I have had a few discussions, with both professionals and my mum and friends, today and over the past few days; I hate the label of adopter and the drama that goes with being called an adoptive parent. I don't view myself as adoptive parent, just as a parent . Yes children who have been through the care system need different approaches sometimes, yes there are unknowns (although often you know of some issues before you say yes to them) But there are unknowns with all child raising, not just adoption. So I would say if you are ready to be a parent you are ready to be a parent, it doesn't matter how the child joins your family. Think about why you you want children and the positives of that. I hope that makes sense (I know what I mean!).

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Coolchick11 · 17/01/2018 22:05

Thanks isthisteddy it was heart breaking to not be able to have children of my own but give children the opportunity to be loved in a caring home def ready to be a mum can't wait to be a mum

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