Can I take custody of my sister (details inside)

[steenkash]

My father is an alcoholic, he lost his job due to alcohol, and every day all he does is drink and drink. My mum doesn't work, but she's been put under severe stress. My father constantly shouts at her and refuses to stop drinking - he has no care for his family. This is not an environment suitable for my sister - can this be a reason to take custody of my sister- I want to move out of my parent's house and away from that environment, its too damaging.

I’m sorry that sounds very hard

How old is your sis and how old are you?

Hi,

My sister is 12 and I am 24.

I'm sorry that I don't have an knowledge in this area but just wanted to send you a hug of support, sounds like life is very tough for you. Hopefully someone with a bit of family law expertise will be along here shortly x

I'm not a legal expert but I'm only 25 and I moved out of my parents home at 13 to live with another family member . My mum called the police and social services but they said that over the age of 12 as long as I was with an adult and there were no safeguarding concerns then they couldn't do anything to force me to go home .
I don't think it has changed very much as my sister did exactly the same thing three years ago aged 13 and again nothing was done . As long as you have a stable place to stay with your sister and she wants to stay with you then I can't see how she could be forced back home if there are no concerns about your ability to look after her .
Speaking to the NSPCC or even children's services confidentially for advice may be a good place to start . I hope things improve for you and your sister soon .

It sounds like a very difficult situation for you. Do you think your mum would agree and support you ?
I think it would be worth you getting advice from Social Services. You are just starting out in life yourself, and whilst I'm not suggesting that you should not do it, I think it would be best for both of you if you were clear on the legal position and you having at least some parental rights.

I'm thinking about practical things like you receiving the child benefit and tax credits for her, school communicating with you, lots of ordinary day to day things that parents need to give permission for.

Good luck, I hope you can find a solution, you sound like a fabulous big sister

I did when was 19. The social worker visited my house and asked me some questions and that was that. Good on you for looking out for her. You're a fantastic sister

Just to let you guys know i',m her brother not sister haha.

You're a fabulous big brother then! She is lucky to have you looking out for her

( will toddle off and revist unconcious bias and making assumptions )

Haha, thanks for your kind words and advice.