Anyone else get fed up with the process ??

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Due to a merger of adoption agencies in our area we have now been assigned a new social worker who we met yesterday, we are about to start stage 2. This merger has so far delayed us a month and looks like it will another month while they get their shit together.. on first impressions I dont like the new social worker

This is our 2nd time of going through the process, we're being told different things all the time - you dont have to redo this bit, oh actually you do and im just a bit fed up of it all. I was feeling really positive about the meeting yesterday and now im deflated.. friends and relatives that know will be asking over Xmas and would have been nice if wed had something positive to say !

I know weve just got to suck it up and do whatever they want but its not easy !

I sympathise with you...just tell yourself it’s a marathon, not a sprint. A lifetime of parenting vs a month or two of delays. Keep positive and take the time to enjoy your life now - not sure if you already have children but if you don’t then make the most of it. Good luck with the rest of the process - I found it to be a lot of ups and downs but keep your mind on the long term goal x

Try and stay positive. You do have something positive to Sat! We are in a process to adopt, we are. Dry excited, the new merger has only delayed us a couple of months it could have been much more.

Try and train your family not to ask. say something like when we have news we can share, we will. Of you do say anything it means there is nothing to say.

Try and be positive a out your social worker. Think of her or him as one stepping stone across a river, not the whole bridge

Christmas is a hard time to be on this process. Stay strong.

Thanks both, a marathon it is indeed !
I do intend to enjoy Christmas, after 8 years of trying for a family it feels like weve been forever enjoying our adult time while we can
Was just hoping I would feel more positive as I pushed for a meeting before Christmas so we would know what was happening

So excited not dry excites!

If you do not say anything it means there is nothing to say! I mean.

That sounds a bit rubbish OP

For what it's worth we were assigned a new SW for stage 2 and I really didn't like her, at all. I thought she had it in for us. But she was very senior and I kept saying to DH "she must be senior for a reason". That reason became apparent at our approval panel with our PAR - she did an exceptional job with it and the panel really praised her efforts. She has also been fantastic since then with matching.

So give your SW a chance, she might surprise you!

Yes ill give her a chance, funny as shes senior as well. Our previous Sw was young and enthusiastic and we just got the impression the new one was tired of it all..

Fingers crossed she does surprise us !

We had three social workers. The first was lovely but very chatty and I was not sure how to take her! Second e dn't click with but then got our third who saw us through last main bit and into matching and was fab.

Hang on in there.