Having started reading more on attachment theory ive been thinking about the role of both affection and discipline in parenting an adoptive child.
I've been reading sally donovans unofficial guide and i think it will take some wider reading and experience of the process and training (and then being a real life parent) to form my own view properly. On advice from others i am taking sallys book with a slight pinch of salt and seeing the relevance of context to her experience and certainly dont feel i agree with all of her viewpoints (admittedly from my somewhat limited experience being that i am not yet an adopter) but one thing that did strike me as very important was the point she made about shame based discipline techniques being in appropriate.
I also have been wondering how you felt able to show physical affection/contact to your children to help them feel reassured and loved without being over bearing or risking inadvertently traumatising them given their past experiences especially in the early days of when your child came home and you were trying to bond (and in the case of discipline set boundaries)?
Just wondering aloud about something i have very little experience of yet. Specifically interested in that initial settling in period. Do let me know your insights id be really interested x
Affection and discipline
teekay88 · 15/12/2017 18:08
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