We had a phone call early last Sunday morning from my partner's mum to say that her daughter (who had been adopted at a few days old and mum was 16) had made contact & they were meeting next weekend. DP is the second child from the same father (18mths age difference) and his 'new' sister is now 52yrs. DP's mum left their dad for a new partner whilst she was still pregnant with him.
Anyway, I'm really worried - the past 5 days have been very difficult. DP seems to be (understandably) going through a roller coaster ride of emotions & is currently off walking in Wales to try to get some clarity.
His mum has asked him to go with her to meet his sister & although initially unsure, he has agreed. It's a 4hr drive away & they have accommodation & his mum's (newish) husband is accompanying.
Yesterday he said he felt indifferent to it all & to having "found" his sister. I know this can't be true & is some kind of internalisation or attempt at coping.
His mum is a very emotional lady & will also be meeting 4 grandsons & 5 great granddaughters. It just all feels like too much too quickly for me - contact was only made a few weeks ago apparently.
I'm not sure if I'm over stressing about itor if I should be a bit more pushy about driving there with him. I have offered to go but he didn't really say yes or no initially & it's currently assumed I'm not going which is ok but I'm worried he's not as brave or ready for this as he assumes.
Any help or advice welcome.
Partner meeting his sister. I'm worried.
alsteff · 10/11/2017 23:12
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