He's left me

[Choccogoingcuckoo]

After being in the adoption process for 2.5 years we've been linked with the most handsome 5yr old boy, waiting on date for matching panel. His room is decorated ready for his arrival. Been told it's a great match and my DH has packed up and left me!!! He's very final and about it all. My heart is shattered 💔

Conserve, you might be right, it might be on here that I heard it

Op you sound like you are being brave, I hope you and the lo get the best outcome for you both.

I am a single adopter and yes you would have to make changes but don't forget, you will have financial things to sort out with your husband, moving to a smaller, cheaper house is a possibilty. You would probably be eligible for things like tax credits that you may not be eligible for now.
But this is for the future, you need to recover and sort out the practical issues with your husband.

This does not have to be the end of your dreams to be a mum, but give yourself time to grieve, including for this little boy.

Lots of us single adopters out there, you can make it work.

Hi Chocco, I think anyone who goes through the adoption process (and you have gone through it, even if it's not concluded satisfactorily right now) has a lot of strength, resilience, and fighting spirit. Things are horribly tough right now, but try to remember how strong you can be, and what you can achieve when you're ready.

conserveisposhforjam
"Hi chocco - I don't think anyone expects you to answer any questions here. More things to think over. I hope you're ok"

Yes 100% agree, just asking things for you to think about and not really wanting answers for myself.

Oh sweetheart, I honestly don't think any of us expect answers. We just want to make sure that you are ok.

Chocco, so so sorry to hear this. How hard for you to try and process two such significant losses at the same time. I hope you find all the support you need to help you through both.

The only person I know who went on to adopt the child she was matched with after her husband left her was where the child was much older, and therefore considered 'hard to place', and I don't know the ins and outs of timings. She is also a very determined woman!

I hope you have some very good friends/family who can rally round you. If you want to adopt, then it will happen, adopting single can be great, no one to argue about child-rearing with. But it takes time to get there.

Hi Chocco,
So sorry to hear this and really hope you’re ok.