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fatberg · 14/09/2017 09:51

Little Fatbergs (fatberglings?) back at school a week and a half and already I'm at wits' end with a new teacher who clearly doesn't believe a word I say. Again. Every fucking year. Thinks he'll have all her Behaviour sorted by the time we meet at parents eve in Oct.

I can't even be arsed typing out the details because it's just too meh but I'm raging whilst trying to look reasonable.

How are the rest of you doing?

(I'm a namey name changer.)
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fatberg · 14/09/2017 09:57

And I'm swearing because I saw a graph of swearing on mumsnet by board (really) and frankly Adoption wasn't doing enough of it. πŸ˜€

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B1rdonawire · 14/09/2017 10:27

"X needs to remember that for themselves because I have a lot of other children to look after".

In front of DD. Ten seconds before bell rings to go into class. DD straight into freeze as what she heard was "This person will not look after me". For. Fuck's. Sake. And they wonder why they had to ring me by morning break because DD couldn't cope Hmm

In your situation I might make a note in my diary to remind the teacher they were going to have everything "fixed" by now and see just how that's working out for them. Arseholes.

(Please can I see the graph?!)
fatberg · 14/09/2017 11:14

But of course. πŸ˜€ I hoped you'd ask.

Sorry they completely failed MiniBird. Has she been able to go back/settle since?

FatbergDD will present like she's okay at school, but not learn much because she's concentrating on presenting, and we'll get the behaviour at home, so I suspect we'll be sitting there in July and he'll still not believe me.

I hope I'm wrong, but I don't think I am. πŸ™

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B1rdonawire · 14/09/2017 13:42

Oh I don't know, having viewed the chart I think I'm quite proud of us: we must be a minority use board by number of posters, and yet we made it into the chart AND we seem to be proportionately more creative in our choice words than other boards. Yay foul-mouthed us! Grin Grin

B1rdonawire · 14/09/2017 13:44

P.S. We have had to go gently with the repair to get DD back into school, and she's needed a lot of extra support as her confidence went through the floor. We will get there but some people really, really don't help!

LateToTheParty · 14/09/2017 13:47

That's crap for you both. For the first time, DS has the same teacher two years running, so I'm spared the otherwise annual event of the Autumn parents evening, where I ask his new teacher if they are aware of his background. Usually I'm met with a blank look, so I end up giving them the edited highlights in a stage whisper because we are sitting in a hall surrounded by teachers, other parents and children. This usually prompts a range of facial expressions, from polite interest, to mild concern, then mounting horror, ending with a look which strongly suggests the penny dropping. I do ask that this info is passed on each year but it never happens.

DD has just started, and I've been more proactive. We are already getting additional support for her behaviour and her emotional development. As well as the info they've requested, I've given school a book from Adoption UK about adoption and school, and printed out, highlighted and scribbled on some of their fact sheets. Will wait and see whether it has any effect.

The individual teachers are good but in general the school doesn't seem to "get" adoption issues. It's in quite a deprived area and I think because we present as a typical middle class family, and the kids have no formal diagnosis of anything, they are in danger of being overlooked. I almost certain that their Pupil Premium is pooled and not used for them.

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