Can a divorcee adopt? Does the exH have to support and approve the whole thing?

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I am considering a separation/divorce.
I would like to try to adopt and know the process is long. Would I be laughed at by SW or Adoption agency for applying for the initial stage alone but separated?

Hi, there's no reason why a divorcee can't adopt. I'm assuming you would be applying as a single adopter. SW tend to prefer you to be settled so if the split up is recent they would probably want you to wait before applying and you would have to demonstrate that you are financially stable and have a good support network.

There's nothing to stop you calling your local authority or a voluntary agency and going to one of their information evenings to find out more about it.

Thank you. I work full time and I'm building up savings. I might start giving some cash to my mum to put away so it will be for my future if I can adopt. DH does not want to adopt. We are actually on verge of separating. Does DH get interviewed etc?

I think they do often interview significant ex-partners. That said, they will read between the lines of a bitter ex-partner's views. They will also want to meet people who support you and who will give a positive view to you.

One of the best things you can do is volunteer work with children. It can take a while to set up but if you can demonstrate hands on skills, and that you have the time to volunteer then that will go i your favour.

yes of course you can adopt as a single person. No you won't be laughed at by SWs but they will want you to wait until your marital situation is resolved , and you are settled in your new life as a single person, with stable finances, home, support network etc.

It sounds as if part of the reason for your marriage breakdown might that your husband doesnt want to adopt? If so be prepared for SWs to want to talk to you about this.

Its standard for significant partners to be approached, but more so if there are existing children. But no absolutely not does he have to approve what you do.

Im single, its hard going it alone but lots of us do it. good luck