Contacting ex partners

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Myself and my partner are starting the process of looking into adoption and have received all of the information and are attending an event in a few weeks time. One thing that really concerns me is that they will contact ex partners.

I met my current partner when I was married, obviously my marriage didn't end well at all because of this. I'm concerned that he will absolutely revel in being able to completely slag me off and say what an awful person I am when he's contacted by the social workers. I am a very open person and will tell the social workers everything beforehand, but does anyone know if an ex partners statement can stop you from adopting?

Ex-partners statement certainly can stop you but that would normally be if they disclose abuse etc. SW will have heard from many disgruntled exes. They will be able to look at what he is saying about you and cross reference it with other references and what you tell them (and what they see of you).

Agree, just be upfront and honest and they will spot his bull shit.

You could also say that you have no further contact with an ex and that you have no idea of any contact information. They cannot in any circumstances, tell you to try and contact or find contact information as that can lead to places where they'd find themselves liable.