Husband and I are making tentative steps

[PlayOnWurtz]

We've had several pregnancy losses and are now having the conversations of we can't keep putting ourselves through it anymore. His mum is adopted and so for our family it feels right, however when she was adopted it was very much "want that one" and you were given a baby which is very much not the case any more I know!

I've had a look on my LA website and they aren't accepting people for 0-2 year olds as they have too many on their books so any child we take on will be a 3+ or one with complex health issues. I already have tweens so am not a parenting novice and dh is their stepdad. Will this be held against us? How have adopted children fitted in if you've already got children in your family?

Can someone give me the whole story in all its gruesome details please?

Having children will not effect your prospects of adoption but it will effect the type of child you are matched with. The SW will want to meet your children and discuss how they feel about adoption as well as get a feel for your family as a whole in order to get a good match.

We have a birth child. He was 3 when we started the process and turned 4 a week after DD (1yr old) was placed.

What do you mean the type of child? As in age group?

For example, we were told we would be placed with a child with a low risk of complications so as to not disadvantage our BC.
They also consider age yes. They would consider what is best for your family as well as taking your preferences into account.

Hi,

I'm sorry for your losses. I just wanted to give you a wave and say hello as we've decided to pursue adoption after RPL too. We're getting practicalities sorted while we wait out our 6 months since the last loss.

Thought it might be nice to be in touch with someone at a similar stage

Hi alltheusernamesaretaken321 nice to "Meet" someone in the same situation

Meant to say sorry about your losses too, it's horrible isn't it

It really is. I kind of expected our last 'try' not to work...It was our 7th go but was really just to know that we'd tried every option. After loss number 6 we'd pretty much decided to pursue adoption when we got a surprise result of a repeat test so offered a different treatment plan. Felt we should give it a go just so we knew we'd tried it but didn't expect it to work

Xx