Advice on being rude and moany - how not to!

[Italiangreyhound]

Our six year old son joined the family by adoption, three years ago, and he is doing OK.

Theraplay helped a lot. His temper 'tantrums' have halved in a year.

He is NT (as far as we know) but can be pretty rude and moany. He must know how not to be since he can lovely to his lovely teacher!

Generally, he lets people know when he is not happy. It's hard to know how to deal with his 'moods' at times.

I''ve done lots of parenting courses and training and unusually know what to do but it is hard being patient all the time while someone is dismissive and rude.

Please be kind, it's been a long day. I don't mind so much for myself but.... He kind of makes it harder for himself.

I love him to bits but he sometimes shoots himself in the foot! By that I mean he wants play dates and then acts so moany I fear he will not get invited back!

crisp thank you so much, I am so grateful. Sometimes, it is easier to spot things that relate to other people's children, when it is our own children it can be hard to see what is up so close.

Like a painting in a gallery we need to step back, I will be doing that starting tomorrow morning.

Hi, just an update. I was a lot calmer and I think ds was too, he was quite good at drop off and pick up, cheery, no moaning!

I let him have a treat. A bag of chocolate things. I said you cannot eat it all. You can eat half. I suggested putting half in a bowl but he was not sure he could do that.

I let him have the bag, came back and reminded him only half and he said "I think you had better take the bag as there are not many left." BUT there were probably about half left and this is the first time he has voluntarily given me any kind of treat food back !!

I was so proud of him, he was so lovely and even at dinner, no rows.

Well done both of you!

He even let me kisss him today. No fuss or nothing!