Quick poll; working full time

[tldr]

For no particular reason, I am wondering how many of you work full time/are part of a couple where you both work full time.

If you don't, was that always your plan? Would you be able to if you wanted to? (Child-wise, not finding-work-wise)

I'm kind of musing that none of the adopters I know work full time (or have both parents working full time), mostly because their DC wouldn't be able to handle long days with school/CMs/breakfast clubs etc, but then I compare that with social services 'all you need is love' narrative.

I'd hate to see adoption become the preserve of the wealthy or middle classes, and I can't imagine how much shit an LA would get if they started openly saying they needed SAHPs, but I can't help but think, if it's what our kids need then SS should be upfront about it. And I can't imagine how let down I'd feel if I'd been left on the breadline by this.

So what are you all doing?

I work school hours, so I can do drop offs, pick ups. DH works FT. It's certainly not what I imagined I'd do, but it was v obvious when I was returning from leave that FT wouldn't work.

I know what you are saying tldr. I will admit, however, that years ago after DD had settled in really well and I went back to work I read some of the wise heads on here saying that it becomes nigh impossible to work full-time with most adopted DC and I smugly said to myself that wouldn't be us. And I have many friends with older DC who say that their teens need them more now than they did when they were primary school aged, and again I didn't really believe them.

Now, I can acknowledge my ignorance, especially as we have seen how our nearly teen BC has benefitted from me being around more almost as much as our younger AC

Thanks for starting this thread tldr, I have found it both interesting and reassuring. The issues you raise are not going to go away anytime soon but those of us struggling with the loss of independence and conflicted values need to to be talking to each other.

How do we get the rest of world to understand what it's like to care for a child with an 'invisible' disability? Maybe that's another thread altogether?

Both myself and DH work FT. We are lucky in that as we work in education so our holidays match that of our son. DH has shortened his hours slightly to enable him to drop off and pick up.
One of the reasons we adopted an older child was to enable us to both work. I am not saying it is easy and if I am honest I think we would both much rather be PT but how things are work for us at the moment and if that changes so our hours etc will change.

Both DH and I work FT. Our Dc have manged transitions well and attend after school club three times a week without any problems. I do work very close to home though and work from home regularly. Initially I took adoption leave and then when I went back to work DH worked part time from home. I think you just have to keep reassessing what is right for your Dc at any given time. DH and I have alternated between Ft and PT at various points over the last few years as the DC needs have changed. For some it is never going to be option for others it may be.

I'm not a single adopter but DH works away during the week (and occasionally longer periods) as is in the forces. I naively went back to work full time thinking we could manage (I had post adoption depression at the time, so it wasn't my wisest move), which we didn't quite manage - so that didn't last long. So am now Part-Time, DS does have alternative care on my longer working days, both grandparents and an after-school club which he enjoys and is well settled with as part of his routine. The other days I do pickups.