Gently with your answers please, I'm a bit raw on this one still 
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Recently our church has had a huge placard (think "Golf Sale" size 
) around the place, indoors, that says "please adopt me, please adopt me". I had absolutely no idea what it was for, but did get a huge reaction from LO (home 3 years) who was scared it meant a) adoption might not be for ever if you have to ask again, b) someone in church had lost their family, or c) if you're adopted that means you had to beg for a family. LO is old enough to sort of understand words can be used different ways, but not totally, and anyway when under stress regresses back to 2-3 yr old level of understanding. We are doing lots of lifestory stuff just now so this was particularly triggering.
We had to leave the church that day because LO became too distressed. I later asked the vicar if the church could store the sign elsewhere, or change the wording (just printed onto paper and tacked on, not signwritten or anything). The vicar replied it will be good for my child to learn resilience and not be over-protected and that such things can't be avoided. The signs are only to encourage people to have a garden notice-board apparently, so not life-or-death. I have sent the vicar some links about early trauma (LO has PTSD and attachment disorder) and some links about adoption and church. A week on, I've had no reply. (I know it's advent and people are busy.)
I do get that this wouldn't be an issue for the majority of children. But it is for mine, and has made LO scared to return. If the vicar won't listen, what can I do constructively? I don't really want to have to find another church, but if this is the attitude of the leadership perhaps it's better to discover that now... Agh.