Am feeling a bit distraught today. Bit of background - I have two adopted daughters placed with us 4 years ago, now in year 4 and year 1. Oldest has attachment difficulties and anxiety and has had several sets of therapy, youngest has anxiety issues and is currently in therapy. The school always say supportive things to me and appear to try to be helpful but I think there is a general lack of acknowledge hat the girls have any issues because they don't act out in lessons, largely as this is not how they show their anxiety! I have sent in multiple documents with how to spot when they are anxious, how to build relations with themetc etc but it hasn't made much difference. I am keen to be more assertive and get better help this year for them.
Oldest has always says she's hated school and doesn't want to go but is a people pleaser so I acknowledge how hard it is for her and we have lots of time together in the morning and then she gets ready to go with no problems. Youngest is not so compliant so we have tear and tantrums and refusing to get dressed or eat as she wants to stay at home. The morning transition for youngest was eased at the end of last year (probably since Easter) with me and her going into class before it starts so she gets settled. This is currently not helping at all at home and ten in the classroom she's really clingy. Also this term so far oldest has really objected to me not waiting in playground first thing and so I end up in the year 1 class room with both girls clinging to me and asking me not to leave. The teachers are so busy they don't even notice and the girls would never cause a scene. As they get too embarrassed.
Anyway I am going to ask for a meeting with the special needs coordinator and the two teachers and see if we can come up with a plan for when we get to school. Does anyone have any ideas what I should ask for? Also if anyone has any ideas how I can make mornings less distressing while we get ready? I'd be very grateful.
Any advice please, DDs don't want to go to school
millicentmollymandy · 20/09/2016 14:00
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