I have just really shouted at my kids and slammed doors! I have two adopted DDs, 5 and 8 oldest is prone to being argumentative and controlling and youngest just constantly shouts.
Oldest came home and hadn't eaten her lunch, this has been an ongoing battle. She had a massive strop as I wouldn't let her have some crisps (I did let her have several pieces of fruit) and has been complaining for an hour about being hungry, she also threw a strop at her sister who wanted a turn at watching something on tv.
Youngest has also been shouting at wanting food or tv or anything she can think of since she got home.
I switched tv off and said that I had had enough of the way they were speaking to me and that they needed to find something else to do until dinner. At which point youngest told me I should go and find something to do till dinner. I left the room. She kept shouting and shouting for me to come back and then asked if I'd play a game.
I said yes let's play a game. But youngest kept cheating and oldest was getting really stroppy, then youngest threw the game board up in the air and left for her bedroom. She laid on her bed shouting mummy over and over. I said I needed a few minutes but she kept on and on and then I went up and shouted at her so loudly I scared myself. I'm still shaking. I've just put telly on for them and given then crisps and biscuits and come up to my room to cry.
I feel like such a failure m, I can't keep calm. I have a terrible headache. I know they experienced some terrible parenting when they were little and I feel awful for behaving this way. I feel embarrassed and sad and horrible.
We are having some post adoption support (eventually) and although this is great in the sessions it doesn't seem to be improving everyday life. I don't know what to do now.
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purplegoats · 28/06/2016 16:37
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