We are considering what level of delay we personally would be able to cope with. From the little research we've done over the last few years we are sure we could cope with the childhood years. We're thinking now about the fact the child may never live independently.
I don't know where to start trying to work out what support is there for them living you or in some kind of sheltered unit later on - do these even exist? We're older adopters so we might be very physically frail or even dead when they are 20.
I hope i don't sound heartless - i just feel i have to get a solid view of what the worse case scenario really looks like before i can be sure i can take this little one on forever.
Can you give me some pointers on where to look for info?