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Feeding the social workers

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MrsH1989 · 09/12/2015 18:13

Hi all,

I have heard comments about SW rejecting biscuits before but ours will be at ours for 5 hrs tomorrow, 10-3pm. I am guessing we need to offer lunch but I dont really know what to do. Should I buy some nibbles that can picked t whilst we talk, make sandwiches? What if one of them is vegetarian and I whips out a load of sausage rolls??
WWYD?

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princesspeppa · 09/12/2015 18:28

Personally, my SW's rejected the offer of a drink most of the time, so I didn't offer them food! I offered a drink a couple of times during the session, and provided some biscuits, but I don't think they expected anything. I actually found it a little off putting in that they wouldn't even have a drink and just wanted to "get on with it". I wouldn't worry too much about it.

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MrsH1989 · 09/12/2015 18:32

On both visits so far they have accepted a cup of tea...

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MintyLizzy9 · 09/12/2015 19:21

In 12 months I've had one accept a brew and one a cup of hot water...stopped getting the biscuits in in the end as I just ate the lot when they left

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Maiyakat · 09/12/2015 19:27

5 hours of SWs?!
Apart from for you for after, how about getting some nice soup, rolls and cheese? Covers the vegetarian problem, and if they don't eat it it's stuff that will keep well and won't be wasted.

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Tamponlady · 09/12/2015 19:53

I did rolls meat and tuna a big bowl of crisps and we just dug in

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MrsH1989 · 09/12/2015 20:39

I know Maiyakat. I have already got the wine in! We are an hour away from our chosen LA so we have longer and less frequent appointments, this is our first "proper visit". I like soup and rolls idea. May get some meats in too.

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wherethewildthingis · 09/12/2015 21:01

OP I am a social worker- they won't expect you to feed them and will feel awkward about eating lunch. Maybe offer a few nibbles if you really want to. Your social worker will be used to missing lunch and will probably fetch something to eat in the car on the way home .You're definitely not expected to offer anything.

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MrsH1989 · 09/12/2015 21:37

Thank you!

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firefly78 · 09/12/2015 21:43

im also a social worker and would most certainly appreciate the offer. but again probably wouldn't accept. i may gratefully accept a biscuit and cuppa. thats a long session though and over lunch. wow. 5 hours!!!

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bostonkremekrazy · 09/12/2015 22:16

perhaps we are unusual but our sw ate every session! snacks, tea and biccies, soup and bread rolls - whatever we made really!

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Devora · 10/12/2015 10:17

FIVE HOURS? Ye gods.

Can YOU last that long without lunch? If they refuse lunch, will you go ahead and eat in front of them? [worries]

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MrsH1989 · 10/12/2015 10:48

We have had a late breakfast, BLT so can hopefully survive on liquid and chocolate biscuits until they leave. They are almost an hour late and have been sa in stand still traffic for most of that time apparently only tens mins away. Waiting makes me anxious...they are probably really frustrated!

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wherethewildthingis · 11/12/2015 07:43

Hope it went well OP. I thought about this thread yesterday and chuckled. In a twelve hour working day I managed to eat a packet of crisps (in car) and a shortbread biscuit (half inched from colleagues desk). This is the typical social worker diet and the reason we all look so unhealthy!!

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MrsH1989 · 11/12/2015 21:21

It went fine thank you. They went to sainsburys up the road to get lunch which also gave us all a break which was much needed!

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Desmoulinsonatable · 12/12/2015 08:00

I have to say, I regularly bake for our social workers, (dds' and ours) provide favourite biscuits and we've done lunch a few times. It makes the whole thing more relaxed and now the children are here it's a game to see what Mummy has baked!