Give me hope!

[Mrsbadger77]

I'm going through a very difficult time at the minute. It's looking like we're facing a decision of terminating a much waited for and much wanted pregnancy for medical reasons. I am so desperate for a sibling for my dd. the thought of going down the ttc road again fills me with stress and anxiety. I need something to cling to and adoption was always something I would be totally open to and I would love to welcome a child into my home and heart.
One thing worries me and that is my partner's mental health. He has been on anti depressants for several years. Would they hold that against us? He has tried to come off them but been unsuccessful. He also had some health issues in the past but I think any gp would classify him as fit and healthy now. Does anyone know about this?

Hi MrsBadger.

Firstly, what an awful and impossible situation you find yourself in! I sincerely hope you don't have to terminate and your pregnancy works out with a healthy baby at the end; I only say this because I know people who have refused to terminate when things have looked medically bleak and gone on to have healthy babies or babies with far less severe issues than suspected. Whatever happens, my heart goes out to you, and I hope you are receiving plenty of counselling.

You may find you receive more replies on the fertility friend forum in the adoption area, but in essence, from what I've read on that site being on antidepressants isn't a barrier to adopting.

All the best

Hello, I'm sorry you're going through such an incredibly tough time. Only you can know the right thing to do in your personal situation, but as PP said, I hope you have good support.

In terms of adoption further down the line, they will be looking for people whose physical and mental health is stable - not people whose health is perfect. Stable, well-controlled conditions (with or without medication) that you are open about, would not be an issue as far as I'm aware.

Huge sympathies, Mrsbadger, that sounds horrendous. There are plenty of adopters who have been on anti depressants for several years (including me and my dp), so try to take that off your worry plate for now. Deal with where you are at present, and when/if you get to the point where you are ready to start thinking about adoption come back here and we'll talk you through it.

All best x

I agree with Devora I am so sorry you are going through this.