Moving house after panel before matching

[wonderingwhetherto]

Back story: We are currently a couple of weeks off of approval panel for adopting our second child. This should go ahead with no problems. As it currently stands there are no children that meet our criteria, so we are happy enough for now to get through panel and wait patiently, for who knows, how little or long.

So to the point... we are comfortable in our current house and it can certainly accomodate 2 children in the short to medium term, but we were always aware as the bodies got bigger, we may have to move. An opportunity has arisen where the perfect house (we've always admired it as a potential family home) has popped up in the same town that we live. It's a good price and having done the calculations it should be affordable. Now, we are a long way off of anything happening (have to sell ours, chains etc etc) but if by a stroke of luck we got the house would it send SS's into a frenzy of panic?? Part of me thinks we have no potential children in mind and life must go on - but another part of me thinks that SS's might pause the whole thing and it could cause delays if the right child for us did come through.

I should add that as there is nothing to tell SSs right now we are fully intending to go through panel and get approved at least - but just not too sure what's best after that.

Advice welcome!!

TIA.

Have moved with kid's in tow a number of times, always a new beginning for all and an adventure , kid's part of the planning, moving should be a nature of things of better futures, pity not all social workers see it this way, as the children do., being included in the process., at the end of the day its about inclusions which many children have been deprived of prior too placements, There are two sides too every coin.

I would think the only things would be the upheaval for dc1 and their h and s check.

But you never know with sws do you? Is yours of the crazed loon persuasion?

Thanks both. Yes, youre right - it should be a really positive and exciting time for kids - moving into a home, choosing their room etc etc. As to our SW, she's fine (although the loons are out there, I know!!) but I guess she'll stick to the rules, but I just dont know what the rules are on this. As for DC1, yeah, I hope it wouldn't be too much for him - but he's only 3 and I guess it's not unsual in any walk of like to get a new home and a new sibling at the same time... it's a really tough one! Instinct tells me just to keep going with everything and if we get to the point of moving (which lets face it, even at best wont be till after Xmas) then take it from there!!

I'm not sure there are any "rules" if your SW is fairly normal then ask her/him. BUt I know a few people who have moved just before placement with no hassle.

Thanks kewcumber, I might broach it with sw after approval panel and see what she says. Reassuring to know it has and does happen though.

wonderingwhetherto I have no concrete advice but in your shoes I would get through approval panel and then plan to move before little one number 2 moves in. That way your ds can have his pick of bedroom and get settled in before the arrival of number two. For us approval to placement was just under 8 months. So if approval is soon it could be May/June time (I know piece of string time.).

I think moving with a recently placed new child would be less than ideal so I would want to avoid that if I could. For all the obvious reasons.

If I were a social worker my main concern would be that you as a family until are fine with the move and can make some contacts in your new location, unless it is really close. Which would all point towards a move sooner rather than later. Is your ds in preschool, will he need to move pre-school? Those are the kind of thins you may need to manage well (has he been with you long?). If you are old hands at all this I am sure it will come easily. Our dd was 18 months when we moved and she did not worry at all. But now, if we had to move now with adopted ds aged 5 I would be doing all spade work to remeasure him what it meant, and didn't mean, and what would go with us and all that stuff. But only once it is finalised, of course.

Sometimes funny things can be an issue, like if a family pet is buried in the garden!

Hope it all goes well.

family unit not family until!

(Yes, we do have a dead family cat buried in our garden!)

Thanks so much Italian for your thoughts on this. Im going to do exactly that, get through approval panel and as you say, we could be easily looking at next summer before placement so bags of time to get us all settled if that's how it goes.

Thankfully is in same town so no change to pre-school/nursery routine. No pets in the garden but some dog ashes in a pot, which will be following us around really have to do something civilised and worthy with those

Fab.

(We buried hamster in a pt but cat was just too big!)

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