Sleeping (again) sorry for new thread.

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In my previous thread I asked for advice on sleeping and several of you said you had/are co sleeping. Did you mean in same room or same bed please? If same bed how does your social worker react to this? Is it seen positively? Thanks

SWs vary, and the right choice for you will vary. My SW suggested trying it, because sleep was in very short supply and we were all going a bit insane, so were up for trying most things!

My LO suffered from extreme distress at night but was so unused to company and comfort that she panicked at bed-sharing. I slept in the same room which she gradually tolerated. When she woke in the night, I comforted her in my bed (next to hers) then put her back into hers when she calmed down. And repeat, and repeat, and repeat.

These days, we both sleep in the same bed in my room when she needs it, and sleep is much better regardless because she's gradually learned to trust that she will get comfort when she calls out. I thought it would never get better, and it did. In case that helps!

It never occurred to me to mention to the social worker!

We coslept in same bed.

Our problems started 6 months in. Went on for almost a year. Stopped for 4 months and have started again as he started school. We have tried both sleeping in his room and in his bed. Bed probably settles him quicker as he can feel us near him and doesn't have to keep on opening his eyes to check we are still there. When he is in a deepish sleep, I creep back to bed with hubby. We have tried having him in our bed but then the only person who gets any sleep is him as he is so squirmy (and takes up far too much space for a pint sized person...)

If you don't ask your sw they can't express shock and horror about Co sleeping and you then won't have to pretend you're not doing it if you do...