How to forgive?

[onlyoranges]

I wondered for those of you who were adopted how do you forgive your bm or maybe you feel you don't need to. I was adopted when I was almost 2 and I know in those times things were different. So, one an intellectual level I understand but over the years I have come to understand that intellect and feelings are two very different things. I had a very unhappy childhood and I suppose that is part of the problem.

How do I forgive her and move on? I really want to I just don't know how so for those of you that have had to take this journey where do I begin?

(full disclosure, I'm not adopted myself)

Have you had contact with your bm, OP? Or is it about reconciling it with yourself?

I think how you deal with it depends on why you were adopted in the first place, and whether you can get (or want to get) her version of events.