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Educating Adopted DCs- alternative to the local state?

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selly24 · 25/06/2015 15:39

In most cases I would think the local state nursery/primary with good Senco and an understanding head would be the ideal starting point for adopted DCS education. However does anyone haveexperience of doing things differently or changing systemslater on in their childhood. I'm thinking: Independent schools (day/boarding) Home educating specialist schools ......?

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anxious123 · 25/06/2015 15:46

I'm not adopted so it's a bit different but i can tell you that I had a brilliant experience as a home educated teenager with the full support of the LEA, I passed 12 out of 13 GCSEs so it is perfectly possible (and I didn't have an easy childhood nor was I particularly academic x

fasparent · 25/06/2015 16:11

Our DD has Foetal Alcohol Syndrome, was OK in primary but no concept of anything in senior school, Home Educated and attended specialist children centre few times a week,(for sick children) Excelled in sport, College was great, left with a string full of qualifications and Student of the year. Has never been out of work, bought her own car and house , and is total independent. Learning basic , basics, promoting self esteem, and confidence. Learning how too handle her disability's and inclusion's in the University of life was sufficient, with lots of fun, love and support of people around her.

Kewcumber · 25/06/2015 20:54

I've only done state primary so far and our Senco has been brilliant and supportive. I haven't heard great things of support in the private sector but I can't comment personally.

There is not a cats chance in hell DS would cope with boarding so thats never even been something I've investigated.

Home ed'ing might be appropriate - in our case I think having a break for me by working/DS being in school has kept me sane at times and I'm not sure how much harder it would have been without SENco support.

Sorry thats not very helpful is it! Basically state is really the only thing likely to work for us.

slkk · 25/06/2015 23:35

You may find that you have to pay for any extra support that is needed in a private school (such as SALT, one to one TA) - I'm hopeful that the right state school could be the best option for many, though home ed etc is a different kettle of fish and not one I've ever considered.

Andro · 25/06/2015 23:43

My two are at private school; the smaller class sizes and in house Ed psych at primary were important for my dc. My eldest had amnesia and PTSD, so staff with the time to really learn how to support him and manage his triggers was essential. The amnesia has resolved itself but the PTSD, although vastly improved, is still an issue.

Neither board, but we have discussed it with ds because his secondary school offers boarding facilities. He doesn't want to board right now, but may consider it in exam years - I won't push it, I was sent away to school against my will and although I loved the school the backdrop to the situation was emotionally devastating.

TheXxed · 25/06/2015 23:49

fasparent your post made me really happy. I am so glad things worked out well for your DD.

fasparent · 26/06/2015 10:46

Think point of thread is suitable school State or Otherwise, Lots will depend on child's history. Also parents mind-set, not forgetting long-term
advantages and support.
We have others with SEN needs two with CP and Autism both were in state school class size around 8. with children with different conditions. We searched far and wide for suitable schools. What was in our Mind-set was
very much inclusions with other schools and out of school, too enable the children too take part and experience a very wide number of activity's, meet new people and friends improve their social life and be part of a community able and disabled.
Same can be said of abled children, have too address problems as and when they occure, let the kid's be kids, There are many openings associated with inclusion's. Friend may say come too our youth club, join our Gym, Rugby/Football club can be endless. Meet other parents socialise.

StaceyAndTracey · 03/07/2015 16:23

Hi selly , you are asking lots of questions so I'm guessimg you have decided to go ahead with applying to adopt ? How did the meeting with the SW go ?

Regarding education, I think it's hard to discuss in theory , as so much is about meeting the needs of the individual child . Are you thinking of adopting a child with diagnosed special needs ?

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