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Present for son?

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Takedeux · 08/04/2015 08:53

As a bit of background, my male cousin astonished not quite everyone a few years ago by coming out, and adopting a little boy with his partner. Sadly his parents, particularly his father, took it very badly, and things have been quite tense between them since. He lives on the other side of the world. His mother was starting to build bridges, and had showed me and others a few pictures of the little boy, with what seemed like pride. She has just died, and my cousin is flying back over for the funeral, without his family.

I have never met his son or partner, but I have a child of similar age, and they are cousins. I imagine at some point in the future they will come back to the UK, even if just to visit.

I was wondering if it would be silly for my DC to give a little present with a card and photo inside to my cousin for his son. Or would this be the wrong occasion? Or is it a silly idea? The DC have never met after all.

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LastingLight · 08/04/2015 09:16

How old are the boys? I don't think it's a silly idea, it's a way of establishing contact between family members.

SavoyCabbage · 08/04/2015 09:26

No it's not silly at all. Depending on their age, your DS could maybe make him a video too. My dc have done this for a friends DS as my friends DS thought we lived in caves with kangaroos. My two loved making a video of their house and their school etc.

iwishkidslikedtomatoes · 08/04/2015 12:30

I would echo the others, not silly at all!

Ours have cousins where the parents, my partner's sibling, have made no effort to engage and it's really upset us, on the flip side my partner's cousin has a child who via moonpig/funkypigeon made a card with their child's picture on it (he was playing). Inside they wrote it as if it was from him, with I live....I like.... and hopefully you will come and visit me one day (they live miles away). This card has gone into a memory book and when we did indeed visit months later we got it back out as a reminder. It was perfect and we were so grateful they had gone to so much effort, it meant an awful lot, particularly as their first cousins don't play a part in their lives, due to their parent's feelings regarding our adopting. So yes, definitely, 100%! Smile

Takedeux · 09/04/2015 08:19

Thanks all. I shall have a think about something suitable. Moon pig is a great idea. A bit young to make videos at the moment alas

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Takedeux · 27/04/2015 23:04

An update. Cousin and I agreed that encouraging cousins on the opposite side of the world is cool, and so have arranged to exchange the odd postcard, birthday presents and Christmas presents, and photos of course. I am really pleased, and thank you for your encouragement

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CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 30/04/2015 18:00

Excellent news!

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