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LampingPolars · 30/03/2015 00:13

Me and my husband have started the adoption process (well, we've been deferred until the summer because we've recently moved and the SW wants the house to be decorated before we start the process officially which is annoying). Anyway, last night I had a dream that we had started the process then found out I was pregnant and was really disappointed and upset because it meant we couldn't adopt anymore. I've just told my husband and and he said I was fucked up- it was only a dream but it's partly true. I have any desire to be pregnant. I just want it to be the summer now.

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RaspberrySnowCone · 30/03/2015 08:04

These emotions do funny things to your head! It is just a dream but it's good that you feel you've moved on from wanting to be pregnant. A dream like that could've swung you either way really. I think once you start to look at the bigger picture, that pregnancy is 9 months but parenting a lifetime, pregnancy does become less crucial! It was certainly the bit of becoming a mum that I was obsessed with for a long time, so much so that I forgot about the rest of it!

Noodles31 · 30/03/2015 13:07

I've just started the process too and just prior to starting the process we had already tried that month, and i kept worrying and thinking i hope i don't get pregnant. It's very strange but i think has a lot to do with accepting your adoptive route. :D

Italiangreyhound · 30/03/2015 23:58

I have dreamt I was pregnant and we stopped trying a long time ago. It is a funny old dream. The fact you are so set on adoption is great. Your dh probably doesn't understand because I do think men think about things a bit differently!

I agree with noodles that it is part of the process. We ave a birth dd and tried for years to have another. Once we had our son identified for us I would have been devastated had I been pregnant and missed out on parenting him!

akuabadoll · 31/03/2015 10:24

A friend of mine adopted an infant following infertility and got pregnant, a complete surprise, shortly after the adoption was complete. This is, despite popular belief, of course, rather rare (I have an adopted child followed by a bio under different circumstances and this assumption drove me drove me nutty when pregnant ... anyhooos). The point here is that she told me her immediate thoughts on finding out she was pregnant was disappointment as she wanted to adopt again! Anyway 6 years on she has a son and daughter super close to each other, and not just in age.

Italiangreyhound · 31/03/2015 22:27

akuabadoll how lovely.

Chev123 · 31/03/2015 22:55

I'd say the dreams continue to get weirder as you go through the process! I can't believe how odd mine have been! X

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