matching feedback

[ann0102]

We recently went to a matching event and asked our sw for more details on a child. We were told today, we aren't suitable due to complex issues of the child. But no further explanation, would you ask for more detailed reason as there was nothing in profile that worried us. Thanks

I'm guessing there are particular needs that weren't spelled out in the profile, although they might have been there in SW coded form... It's not a criticism of you, and the child will come along who you'd be perfect parents for. I doubt they would give you further feedback because it would involve sharing more confidential info about the child.

I'm sure between the adopters on this thread we could offer some translations of standard phrases, if that would help?! Obviously, don't tell us what was in the profile, but I'll try and post some standard examples later on!

I have re-thought this and wonder if you have a SW who would be receptive to you having this conversation with her, i.e. asking them how they would interpret information in particular profiles?

Thanks, we have emailed sw and asked for more of an explanation. i think i'm also feeling super sensitive today, which isn't helping matters.

ann try not to take it personally but if you are open to discuss it more, then just be open. If it is meant to be right the social worker will say more. Good luck.