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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.

Adoption

birth mum support

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OurMiracle1106 · 11/03/2015 11:18

Firstly I'm sorry if this upsets any adoptive parents.

Yesterday I spoke to an organization called PAC UK. they help birth mums after the adoption with counselling and run a support group. It has taken me nearly 18 months to find this organization and wanted to make others aware it exists.

They have taken a referral for me and I am awaiting my first meeting at the support group.

If you are a birth mum please don't think you are alone. There are others out here. And don't be afraid to admit your not ok. It might have been the right thing for my son but that doesn't mean it doesn't help.

They can also help you write your contact letters if you are having issues because I know all too often social services provide little or no support.

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Velvet1973 · 11/03/2015 11:42

Glad that you have found this Miracle and really hope they help you further, you e shown such incredible honesty and courage I wish you all the very best.

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HGrace · 11/03/2015 12:51

It's good to know there's support out there for birth parents too. Thanks for posting. I wish you all the very best.

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Kewcumber · 11/03/2015 14:42

I doubt any of us will be upset about this Miracle. Anyone who can help support birth mothers gets a big fat tick in the "good thing" box from me. I can imagine contact letters are particularly hard for some so thats sounds a real support which will benefit both birth mother and the child.

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Italiangreyhound · 11/03/2015 16:50

Miracle of course we are not upset, I am pleased you have found some support. It is vital for all. Best wishes to you and all birth parents reading this.

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Devora · 11/03/2015 17:51

Of course we're not upset! I'm so pleased you've found a source of support, and wish that more was available for birth parents.

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UnidentifiedSighingObject · 11/03/2015 19:59

Definitely not upsetting for this adoptive parent either Miracle - it's absolutely right that support is there for birth parents, and I'm really happy that PAC is there to listen and support you.

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crackerjack00 · 11/03/2015 21:11

Another adoptive parent who, far from being upset, sees this as a really positive thing.

All the best.

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OurMiracle1106 · 12/03/2015 18:52

I'm glad it doesn't upset people. I know primarily this board is for adoptive parents and adoptees but I have always felt welcomed here and I'm hoping other birth parents feel the same. Its hard to find the support so I'm hoping it can be of use to some one else.

As a birth parent you are discounted after the adoption. You feel unimportant and that your needs aren't to be considered

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Kewcumber · 12/03/2015 19:37

I consider this board to be for anyone in the adoption triangle, personally. I like (if thats the right way to put it) having birth parents around especially you Miracle I think it adds a dimension to the forum which is unusual and I value it.

I do however think that JH and IJ should be burned at the stake so I'm not totally reasonable.