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[KumquatMay]

Hi everyone

At our information evening the other night someone mentioned that the BAAF forums are a good resource for reading prior to/during the adoption journey. I've gone on the BAAF website but can't find them anywhere, do you need to be a member? Can anyone direct me to them?!

Thanks

Try here

www.adoptionuk.org/forum

You said BAAF, not Adoption UK. Sorry!

I'm not sure BAAF a has forums forae those on their website do they?

(I've always seen Adoption UK and BAAF as interchangeable anyway which is nonsense, I know...)

I'm sure they said BAAF, but they might have meant Adoption UK! You might not be the only one to get them mixed up!

Thanks for that, I've not heard of them before so will get on the forum!

I've found the Adoption UK one very helpful, I must say.

not as much as this one though

Sometimes you needa stiff drink after reading stuff on there - there's not much of a light side and some of the probs are heartbreaking.

PicaK is right - take a deep breath before reading on AUK and give yourself brief visits to start with. It's good, important info but it rarely makes for a comfortable read.

Thanks everyone, have had a good look at AUK and will keep popping back. thanks!

Agree what others say regarding AdoptionUK forum.

Especially on the Adopters pages you must remember that many adopters wander off happily into the sunset and never post anything ever again.
However some do go on to have significant problems, and those are the parents who ask for help most.
Also remember that even if your child goes on to have difficulties, there will be good things too. But people don't tend to need help with the good things.

But it can open your eyes, make you more aware, and make you read between the lines of profiles saying 'needs parents who can set boundaries' or 'needs energetic parents' etc.

I stopped posting there when they 'improved' the boards, though occasionally I post on an alternative site set up by some disaffected users when I have something that seems a bit too sensitive to post here.

Thanks for the caution everyone, found myself pretty discouraged after spending too much time on forums. I think that while it's good to be aware of the difficulties, it's a case of tackling them if/when they come up. In the v v early stages (as we are) there isn't much to be gained from reading in-depth about the MH issues of teenagers etc. So going to put it to bed for a while and just focus on remembering why we want to adopt! Thanks again.