I sent an email almost a year ago to my birth sons father when he told Me he was going to contest. I now wonder if I was too harsh.
Its edited of my sons name but nothing else.
The question you need to ask yourself Is what are you reasons for contesting? Because you selfishly want miracle with you? Or because you actually think miracle Is unhappy being where he is? Being a parent means putting your child first and though it has been the most heartbreaking and guy wrenching decision I have ever had to make I truly do believe that I Couldn't offer miracle more than he is already getting. He has a mum and dad who love him very much. I know because I have met them. He Is doing well. He is settled and happy and you want to take him from that why? For him? Because if you honestly think its for him you are deluding yourself. If you cared about miracle when social services offered you contact you would have taken it. Just like I did. I was there. Every single step of the way. Every single heart breaking moment. And I held it together for miracle because that's what a proper parent does. You maybe his biological father but he probably wouldn't even recognise you. And that Is down to you. Repeatedly you asked for contact. A contact centre was arranged and you couldn't be bothered. Same with mediation. Same with social services offering it.
I can promise you this miracle Is either going home with the adopters with my full backing or coming home with me. If I have to contest so he comes home with me I will. I have a wide support network. A stable home. I've done a year of therapy. I have doctors. Therapist. Friends all to back and support me but I know I can't give miracle what he needs. He needs a family. A mum and dad. And I certainly can't offer him more than his mum and dad can.
And as for my mum she would understand my reasons for my decision and support Me just like those around Me are doing.
Maybe for you this is just another way of control over Me. You are sorely mistaken. You had every chance in to be a dad but cocaine always came before us
I look back and think maybe I should have been more gentle. However he didn't contest as a result of that email.