Hi
Thought I would see what the sages on here thought we should do. Our baby has been home for over two months. He is crawling and is getting closer to walking and loves to climb/explore so despite our best efforts at baby proofing and our eagle eyes he gets the odd bump and bruise. About three weeks ago, he slipped from standing and scratched his face on the corner of the skirting board. He didn't bump his head and stopped crying the minute I gave him a cuddle. The HV visited later that afternoon and we pointed it out to her, she had no issues/concerns. Our sw (VA) visited two days later, noted the scratch, we told her what happened and we had a generic discussion about a healthy balance between keeping a child safe and letting them explore/learn, but no concerns.
Five days later (so a week after it happened) our sw called us to ask us if we had reported it to Bub's sw. I said I had not but I would email that day as we were not seeing her for a while, which I did a couple of hours later. Three hours after this I received another call from my sw saying we should take him to A&E. We pointed out that the scratch had happened a week ago, there had been no bang to the head and the scratch had disappeared but we were told to go anyway which we did. A&E were lovely and did a little report.
Our sw then called a couple of days later to "clear the air" as we seemed annoyed- well, yes, it was not in our son's best interests to be dragged to A&E in the evening, it was about the adults involved arse covering. We also pointed out that if we had got it so wrong by not taking him, surely she should have told us this the day of her visit. She said she had been distracted by how cute he was (!) and then essentially blamed her manager. We just chalked it up to the profession desperately arse covering given how they are slated in the press when anything goes wrong and perhaps wanting to protect us and despite our irritation to forget it, we had the report from A&E, all is sorted.
We have just spoken to our son's sw who thinks the whole thing is a nonsense, has no concerns and spoke to our son's FC (we had contact last week) who said we had told her and she would not have taken him to A&E for something so minor. As far as our son's sw is concerned it is case closed. However, she did say our sw had contacted her (not sure when) and told her the "injury" was a lot more serious than we were making out. Our son's sw told her she had no concerns and told her if she did, she should follow them up.
We are absolutely shell shocked. We have always had a good relationship with our sw and simply do not understand why she would suggest to our son's sw we would trivialise an injury which is such a serious accusation! I cannot see how this can reflect well on her, if it was so serious then surely he should have gone to A&E the day of her visit! We are concerned as to the impact (if any) this will have on our application for an Adoption Order and what exactly has been documented about us at our agency, particularly as we might want to adopt again one day.
Sorry about the mass ramble, does anyone have any experience of this sort of thing? We are thinking or requesting a meeting- do we have any right to see our records?
Thanks