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Kewcumber · 01/11/2014 14:40

DS had his first successful sleep-over last night.

Frankly I could do without the pressure of sleep-overs but he so wanted to be "normal" especially after the last one crashed and burned.

I am very happy for him Grin

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Lilka · 01/11/2014 15:42

That's absolutely fantastic Kew! Grin Grin
Well done LittleKew too!

Kewcumber · 01/11/2014 15:57

Thank you. I'm exhausted Grin

He seems fine on about half the sleep I've had.

He is struggling with friendship groups a bit in school (this was a friend from outside school) and is so very conscious that he doesn't have many friends so it was important to him that this went well for many reasons.

Too much pressure for me!

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Jamfilter · 01/11/2014 16:10

Wow! Well done to you both, that's huge!

prumarth · 01/11/2014 16:57

That's fab Kew. Did he/you do anything to help this go smoother after the previous one was problematic?

Kewcumber · 01/11/2014 17:08

To be honest Prumarth, I think it was a combination of him not being ready last time (the summer) and not feeling quite comfortable with the boy who had asked him last time. They have quite a chaotic household - this boy has gone out on his bike on his own on the road with no bike helmet since he was about 7. He blows hot and cold with DS and DS kinda knows that he isn;t really his freind unless the wind is blowing in the right direction!

But I got hijacked by them so felt I had to agree.

This time - still chaotic with 5 boys sleeping over but parents very strict (according to DS - ie normal!) which I think does make him feel more at home!

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prumarth · 01/11/2014 17:36

That's so lovely for him - he must feel very pleased with himself!
Hope you don't mind me asking about the different situations - just storing up for future potential challenges that I may face!

Kewcumber · 01/11/2014 18:25

no its a valid question.

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Threesocksnohairbrush · 01/11/2014 18:29

Fantastic Kew Jr! My DS is the same age as yours and I follow the progress of KewJr with great interest.

And I can certainly say DS wouldn't be anywhere near ready for a sleep over yet, so yours is doing so well!!

Enjoy Wine and perhaps a peaceful evening if DS conks out early?!

RhinosAreFatUnicorns · 01/11/2014 19:54

Great news - how lovely :)

HappySunflower · 01/11/2014 21:07

Brilliant! I totally get this and am thrilled for you both :)

Kewcumber · 01/11/2014 21:25

DS is absolutely unconscious in football top and pants - in my bed because I couldn;t rouse him enough o get him into his high sleeper Grin

So I get to cuddle up to him legitimately tonight - which seems appropriate as we met 8 years ago tomorrow. Will be nice to wake with him tomorrow.

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HappySunflower · 01/11/2014 21:26

8 years ago! Oh that absolutely warrants extra snuggles. I can't believe how those years have passed, I remember checking in on your blog every day!

Kewcumber · 01/11/2014 21:27

I am celebrating with maltesers

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HappySunflower · 01/11/2014 21:32

Ha! Guess what?! We made a chocolate maltesers cake today!
I will have a slice now and toast you and your lovely boy.

Threesocksnohairbrush · 01/11/2014 23:20

Congratulations again on your 8 years together!

(I know an amazing recipe for chocolate malteser fridge cake Smile)

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Hels20 · 02/11/2014 09:23

Brilliant - I remember you posting about a year ago when your DS came back home asking to go on a sleepover...I guess it didn't work well that first time.

Think it is a long time before our DS will allow DH and I to go away for a night on our own and stay with my parents - or be willing to go on a sleep over but hopefully, before he is 8, he will. I know this sounds selfish but I long for a lie in!!

FamiliesShareGerms · 02/11/2014 16:52


LastingLight · 02/11/2014 18:20

That's wonderful.

misspollysdollyridesagain · 02/11/2014 19:08

Great news, Kew! MPD

KristinaM · 02/11/2014 21:06

Congratulations on surviving 8 years of parenthood . And you don't look a day older...

FWIW I think first sleepover at 8 or 9 is quite normal . Our DS who is the same as as your has never been on one and Ds aged 10 has only been on one ( he's had two here) .

KristinaM · 02/11/2014 21:10

Sorry, that was not meant to demean the althogether wonderful and splendiferous achievement of Little Kew, but rather to tell you to stop worrying so much . Like you will listen anyway......Wink

dibly · 02/11/2014 22:23

What lovely news, here's to many more (esp if they lead to flat out LO and malteser cake!)

Kewcumber · 02/11/2014 23:04

Kristina - it really wouldn't worry me if he NEVER had a sleepover and I quite agree that not all of his class would have had a sleepover by now. Its just that he so much wanted to be able to do it and he had such a difficult year last year that I just wanted him to have a great time and to be confident about it.

He has such poor self esteem which he covers up very well.

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KristinaM · 02/11/2014 23:46

Poor wee lamb Sad

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