We have been apt over nearly 7 months now, and have hair been turned down for another potential match. That's te 3rd time it's all gone wrong now, and it's getting harder each time!
The first potential match broke down when it emerged that some of the child's paperwork was inaccurate and failed to mentioned serious signs of sexual abuse.
The second potential match broke down, at the stage of planning matching panel, ect because the foster carer stepped forward and said she wanted to adopt the LO.
The third potential match seemed to be a good fit but we have been waiting for 6 weeks due to holidays to get a meeting with the SW and FF to be told this morning that another couple has been chosen, who showed an interest last minute.
I do understand that on all of the occasions we have no progressed to actually getting a match and that the children are never really ours until they move in... But I can't help but feel emotionally attached to a child once we've rea the CPR and agreed that we'd like to move further forwards. In fact our social worker will only pursue a link if we feel that initial connection to a child.
How have you guys coped with this stage? How have you coped with all the waiting around?
I just feel really deflated and part of me is struggling to see how we will ever be lucky enought to be chosen as parents! (I know I sound a bit melodramtic and do apologise!)
I just struggled to cope with the waiting.. Waiting for profiles...waiting for CPRs...waiting for social workers to respond...waiting for visits...waiting for decisions...
And in the mean time it feels a bit like our lives are on hold because we are just waiting and feel we need to be ready at a lents notice for news or a visit for a SW.
Sorry, I guess I'm just feeling really fed up and our friends and family struggle to understand what we've going through..