My eldest dd turned 17 last weekend. For the first time ever it wasn't a occasion that caused her pain/stress. We had a wonderful day, went to the beach and then she had a little party here with her friends.
She said to me this morning very matter of factly that she hadn't even thought of her birth mum she said she just isn't in her head anymore. I asked if there was anything she wanted to talk about, she laughed and said no, and told me not to fuss. For her it isn't even worthy of a proper conversation now if that makes sense, it's over. For years she would want to dissect things, talk them over but she's so happy, so healthy, she has no need anymore.
I am so proud of her I love her so so much.
The day is so bittersweet for me though. I miss my friend.