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Meeting foster carer today

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MrsM2509 · 26/09/2014 08:22

And I feel so nervous! I don't know why I'm nervous about it, all the sw team on both our and potential lo's side think we're a great match but for foster carer to agree would be grand, after all they know the child better than anyone. Anyway, don't really know who I'm posting, just thought on here I would get someone else who felt the same lol

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glammanana · 26/09/2014 11:12

If its any help to you the Foster carer will be as nervous as you and they are not judging you at all so relax and be yourself,we have been in the same situation and it was fine as TFJs says you have many nervous years ahead so get ready to enjoy them.

PepsiTwirl · 26/09/2014 11:21

Let us know how it went

ChippingInLatteLover · 26/09/2014 11:28

I'm not surprised you are nervous.

I hope it goes well for you all. Are you allowed to say how old the LO is?

auntybookworm · 26/09/2014 12:20

Good luck hope it goes well, bet they are nervous too

Italiangreyhound · 26/09/2014 12:44

MrsM2509 hope it goes well. Don't worry.

Lilka · 26/09/2014 12:45

Hope it goes well, I'm sure FC is nervous too

Lilka · 26/09/2014 12:45

Hope it goes well, I'm sure FC is nervous too

RhinosAreFatUnicorns · 26/09/2014 12:53

Hope it goes well :)

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MrsM2509 · 26/09/2014 17:27

It went fab, thanks everyone! Lo is obviously very loved and thought of very highly, it's great, sounds an absolute character and the perfect addition to our family. Yeh I can tell you the age, just about to turn 2. So exciting. Roll on matching panel!

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RhinosAreFatUnicorns · 26/09/2014 19:09

That's great. L

RhinosAreFatUnicorns · 26/09/2014 19:10

Oops - I meant to say that's it's lovely that it went well as that bodes well for intros too :)

ChippingInLatteLover · 27/09/2014 08:01

Oh how lovely :) I'm glad it went so well for you!

When will you hear if she will be coming to you?

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MrsM2509 · 27/09/2014 09:16

We have matching panel mid October, so will find out for sure then

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ChippingInLatteLover · 27/09/2014 09:49

Mid October??? What was wrong with this morning??

Patience is a virtue. I have none for this kind of thing!! I'd be driving everyone around me nuts, decorating, generally 'bouncing' and being a right PITA

How are YOU doing?

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MrsM2509 · 27/09/2014 16:41

How am i doing? Driving everyone nuts!! Can barely think or talk about anything else! Have decorated the bedroom, bought some stuff like baby wipes etc but am scared to buy any more incase I jinx it! My oh works away so he didn't get to meet foster carer yesterday, but we're due to meet again before panel so that he can meet them too. Such an exciting but nerve wracking time, this child sounds absolutely perfect for us and exactly how Id imagined our child to be (I'm not naive tho, I'm not expecting it to be all rosy)

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ChippingInLatteLover · 27/09/2014 19:34

I hope you have good friends who are happy to join in with the excitement!!

When one of my best friends adopted her little boy he was only 5 weeks old (we lived overseas and it was a few years ago now) and we were beside ourselves. I went with her and her DH, we saw him in hospital & all had a cuddle, 2 days later he came home and she had to take 'maternity leave' which was so funny as no one at work knew because although it happened quickly it had been a long time coming and they'd stopped talking to most people about it, let alone at work. But they were brilliant, absolutely brilliant.

They had to wait 9 months before the official 'signing over' was done, it was a long 9 months but the hardest part was that no one else could cuddle him for ages!! (a couple of weeks I think, but it felt like yearsssssss). He had to bond with them and in those days that was the advice (esp as he'd just spent 5 weeks being doted on by a multitude of nurses). However, he and I are really close, always have been and he's a strapping 25 yo now (my friend is 15 years older than me). 25 years ago and I can remember it like yesterday :)

You haven't even met the wee one yet?? Oh god, you must be in a right frazzle

FamiliesShareGerms · 27/09/2014 19:38

Very exciting! Glad the meeting went well, and fingers crossed for panel

Kewcumber · 27/09/2014 23:34

He had to bond with them and in those days that was the advice

Thats still the advice Chipping! And friends and family still have as big a problem with it!

ChippingInLatteLover · 27/09/2014 23:40

Kew It's so hard being able to look but not touch! I made up for it though

DS is growing up isn't he! I love the rugby photo!

Kewcumber · 27/09/2014 23:53

He's even bigger now - totally filled out this summer. 75% for weight, when he wasn't even on the instructions underneath the chart at 1!

Being 3,500 miles away when I took custody was probably extreme but still stop poor old rellies not being able to cuddle him. By the time we got home he was fine to be held by close family, though tbh he wasn't happy about it so it didn't happen much for a while anyway.

ChippingInLatteLover · 28/09/2014 00:38

Kew yes, being 3500 miles away is a little extreme

You'll have to pop another photo up when you get time. I just don't know where all the years have gone, it doesn't seem that long ago that we were all on the side lines of your & DS's adventure!

We were lucky with A, he'd go to anyone, but soon knew who all his 'special' people were :) The only time he ever screamed at a person was if a man was wearing a hat, he'd go right off on one.

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