I'm sure this has been talked about plenty, so apologies if everyone is sick of it!
I couldn't find any other threads on here, but on a couple of other forums there are lots of approved, but matchless adopters seemingly having very little interest shown in them - for example, seeing very few profiles or constantly being passed over in favour of other adopters. It doesn't seem to be only people looking for young babies either, but sibling groups of 2 and younger school age too.
It also seems that potential links are falling through as courts decide against adoption at the last minute, and our LA have confirmed that prospective adopters are now being warned that courts are having to be seen to be beyond reproach when it comes to dealing with birth families, and this is leading them to give more chances, or spend more time assessing carers within the family. I don't mean to suggest this is necessarily a bad thing - as long as it really is right for the children, and not just a reaction to all the recent negative media.
Just wondered if anyone else was getting the general feeling that there are now an increasing number of adopters waiting, and a decreasing number of children needing them, what with one thing or another?
We've certainly not been inundated since approval a month ago, despite being assured we had very realistic ideas.
The real need is for the older children/bigger sibling groups/children with severe needs ... yes, I know we all knew that already, but for many of those children, maybe adoption isn't the best or most realistic option.
So many adopters feel bad (and are made to feel bad, sometimes) for not feeling able to parent these children, but in truth a great many have arrived at adoption through infertility, and want as many of those young years as possible, or don't physically or financially have room for three at once, etc etc etc ... and the campaigns for new adopters really aren't clear that this is the real need.
Anyway, I've gone off on a tangent ...
I guess what I'm wondering is, does anyone feel that, having had a big swing towards adoption following some high profile abuse cases a few years back, the tide is now turning away from it?
Just feels that new adopters are being approved thick and fast, and then feeling like a spare part ...
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CloserThanYesterday · 07/08/2014 09:18
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