AngelsWithSilverWings is there such a thing as a PEP meeting with the school? Personal education plan?
If you put 'pep meeting with school for pupil premium' into Google you may get some guidance for your area. I just did it and got about 6 different county council plans. The one for your area would be the best of course but you could get ideas from any.
This one www.northamptonshire.gov.uk/en/councilservices/children/virtual-school/pages/pupil-premium.aspx says "How will the money be spent?
The DFE has directed that it is for schools to decide how the Pupil Premium is spent since they are best placed to assess what additional provision should be made for the individual pupils within their responsibility.
Monitoring of how our looked after children benefit from this funding will be through the Personal Education Plan (PEP) meetings."
But I am genuinely not sure if that statement is in relation to children who are still in the looked after system and I would really hope that parents would be consulted as they also know their children's needs, and may well have a much better idea than schools do!
This site www.hawkswoodgroup.org.uk/page/?title=Pupil+Premium&pid=77 also added this info...
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Criteria for use
3.1 The Pupil Premium Plus will be used to improve outcomes for children in the following areas:
Academic achievement and progress
Wider achievement e.g. in an area in which the child is gifted and talented
Attendance
Inclusion (by reducing internal and external exclusion)
Transition (e.g. between key stages or between schools)
Mental health (overcoming the effects of attachment and developmental trauma) where this affects learning"
That last one could cover almost anything, which is good.
If you want to educate the school about adopted children in general I think this is very noble and could be useful for them. I think you also need to educate them about your dd and it sounds like your very emotionally secure little girl may be different from a number of adopted children. I really hope my ds will get there but it is early days for us!
If the school think drama lessons and you think maths I would ask them why they think drama, I might be tempted to go for everything that seems useful but in stages, maybe maths one year and something different another etc. They may have some thoughts or ideas or know something your dd has expressed in school.
Good luck, you are most definitely a moaner, you are wise and want to make wise choices for your kids. 