I know there have been lots of threads about names etc and I have a slightly different question. I have a middle name quandary!
My ds has a first and middle name but he does not know he has a middle name! When I have asked him about it he said just the first and surname. When I told him his middle name he just said no that was not his name!
It is not a particularly great name, it's not odd or offensive but it is not great either, just a bit bland and not special to us. I know it may be special to birth family and I would love to know about that but just not sure whether to keep it or not. I would quite like ds to have a middle name as all of us in the family do. I am tempted to give him a special family name but when I have mentioned that, he also says just first and surname.
Anyone had any experience of this?
I cannot see any identification issues or anything.
It is just a matter of what is best for him, adding a name and keeping the existing one would put him up to four names. Not having a second name would mean he just had two. All of our extended family have three names - first, middle and surname. Everyone bar about one person who doesn't have a middle name.
I feel if I made a special effort to find out from birth family what the significance of the middle name was then did not keep it that would feel 'wrong' - but to drop it without knowing its significance seems wrong too!
When do you need to decide, when you put in your form to legally adopt your child or at the end of the process when you have been legally approved to adopt?
If your kids were walking talking when you adopted them, how much say did they have in names, please?
Middle name quandary - If your kids were walking talking when you adopted them, how much say did they have in names, please?
Italiangreyhound · 03/07/2014 12:10
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