How long does attachment take?
OK, I know it's a case of how long is a piece of strong!
Our little boy has been home a few weeks now and I need to talk with professionals about when he will go to school etc.
I don't want to go into lots of details here (but feel free to PM me).
What I am really looking for is adoption related 'evidence' online that can back up my view that attachment is not a quick thing and that being separated from me for any length of time too soon with little one going into formal education and being away from me either half or whole days could be harmful for the forming of that bond.
I have already suggested to him a play date where I am not there and he reacted in a very negative way. I know he is not ready. This was just a play date which could have been quite short.
He is still young so legally does not need to be in school and I know that.
I suspect the schools we are looking at may be talking in terms of what is 'best' for him (I know they want to think about what is best for him, thta is what they have said but my concern is that not knowing him they will not know!).
I want to show, what I believe to be best for him, is for him to be with me for as long as is reasonably possible, with interaction with other kids and adults but with me there for his needs if and when he needs me.
I am happy to hear opinions, and experiences, but am really I am looking for cold hard facts and research, please.
Many thanks.