Why can't adopted children go to play groups?

[PicaK]

I was in danger of hijacking someone else's thread so started my own.

Feeling stupid cos I didn't realise that standard advice is not to take adopted children to groups for first 6 months. I thought I'd understood (as a newbie right at the start) about having to parent differently but I guess I hadn't taken it on board.

Can you explain why no groups (I genuinely don't understand - desperate not to sound confrontational) and what activities are recommended?

As others have said it will be to do with chaos, sensory overload, confusion over attachment persons etc. But blanket advice seems ridiculous. I took our 3 year old son six weeks in. He was hesitant at first but loved it. We both went to begin with which I think really helped. He then started nursery three months into placement.

I took DD along to a singing group and a small play group from about 6 weeks in - we both needed the distraction and we always left early as two hours was too much for her. I don't think I would have been bolshy enough to have just got up and gone with DS but being an adoptive parent does give you a bit of grit to do things a bit differently

I really think that a lot of this kind of thing is about common sense and the age of the child. A risk assessment of each thing really needs to be part of every day thinking.
Not that I've got my little lovely yet so I'll maybe change my mind in a couple of months!

No, I agree JudysMummy! Almost everything that a parent with a toddler, say, would normally do just needs thinking about whether it's appropriate / helpful right now, rather than assuming that because your friend / sister / neighbour with a similar aged child does something you should do it too