MrsBW I feel very grateful that the foster family have done such an amazing job of caring for our son before we met him.
The social worker suggested a card and maybe flowers.
That did not sound much and yet I think it would be impossible to think of anything grand enough to really say thank you enough! If you know what I mean. Our social worker said the card and flowers should be from our son. But of course he can't write the card himself. In a way it is a very odd present, it is very hard to think of a gift on behalf of another person, who may not completely want to leave! A kind of farewell present from someone who doesn't really want to say farewell! So in a way it is more of a token. That is how I view it. I am sure all our kids will want to be with us but that last day in the foster carers care can be a very emotional one I am sure.
These are just my thoughts.
I would also think we need to be aware of when to give the gift and how it will be received. The day children come home for good will be very emotional for all and so having a very dramatic gift or something elaborate that needs lots of unwrapping may be too much for all. It might be easier to give the gift the day before or leave it to be unwrapped later.
I do like Marz's idea of an album.
I guess in the long run the greatest gift we can give the foster carers is to make brilliant parents to our children.
We will send lots of photos and have texted photos during introductions to show he is having fun. We have already talked about how we will stay in touch. It feels very emotional thinking about it.
Good luck MrsBW, all the best.