samesex step adoption

[julieandrews]

Hi there,
is anyone else going thru same-sex step adoption?

no, single adoption overseas! So can't comment on the specifics but several people around if you need to discuss sdoptoin issues generally.

GOod luck.

sorry i dont knwo what thsi is? Do you mean that you are adopting your partners biological child and you are same sex partners? sorry if i am being dense........

I think you will find info on adoption in general here and info on sex sex couples on the relationship & parenting threads

yes kristina i think thats the definition of same-sex step parenting. basically one partner already has a child and their new same-sex partner would like to adopt them. if the childs other biological parent is still alive then they must to give consent to this obviously.

erm.. sort of
same sex couple using anonymous donor sperm - so no consent from biological father req.

we had child together but until adoption goes thru I have no rights - (although have assumed them.
Just wondering if anyone else is having fun and games with invasive social workers..

hey julieandrews - sorry to hear of the fun and games! I am the biological mum of our ds and we have just sorted out the parental responsibility order for my partner. DS is 12 weeks, so as I understand it we can't go for adoption until he's one year. Are you having to have a home study & go to panel etc??

We are just about to embark on this process,my DH wants to adopt my DS ages 4-2, the 4yrold has visitation to his birth dad, but hes never been interested in the 2yr old,he went when i was 4mth preg,far too interested in my former best mate. Though is is agreeing to the adoption,as he dosent want to [cant afford]pay maintenence.

welcome to the world of intrusive social workers! No experience of same sex adoption but plenty of experience of the intrusion! Just keep repeating to yourself that they all have to bugger off once the adoption is final...

Hi Katerina75
we're having home study/invasion and have to go to court at some point, very open and shut but still taking a helluva long time.
we keep feeling that there are some kids out there who REALLY need this level of supervision.
re: waiting til baby is a year, there was a change to childrens act last dec which is why we've gone straight for adoption route rather that parental responsibility.

the parental responsibility was ridiculously easy to get - turned up at the court and they stamped the papers, never even looked at his birth cert or our civil partnership cert. which I think is going a bit far the other way?!

was just wondering whether hetrosexual couples who use donor sperm or eggs have to go through the adoption or parental responsibility process?

No, not if they were treated together at a licensed fertility clinic (I guess the rationale is that they could just register the baby that way anyway, so better to make that the legal position too). The non-biological parent in a same-sex couple seems to be treated much more akin to someone using surrogacy.

I think that with a heterosexual couple the man has the right to put his name on the birth cert - not sure if they have to be married though??

Have court date next week!
only taken 10 months!!

I'm late in on this thread: Did it all go smoothly JA?

We're just starting this. Registering partnership v soon and have the adoption forms ready to fill in. All looks very straightforward, and how lovely to have boxes to tick rather than have to scribble clarifications next to! I am non-bio mother (er, makes me sound like a washing powder ) to our lovely 1yr old DS, and hate not having any legal right in worse-case scenarios (hospital etc, which have luckily never happened so far). Was recently feeding him to song with lyrics you don't belong where the humans eat, you don't belong to me. Richoched from a giggle to a cry. Can't wait to have this all tied up.

I hope it's all gone smoothly and you are now proud legal mummy, and all the best to all you others out there xx