History of depression

[mintleaf]

Hi there,

I wonder if anyone can help me. I'm currently going through my third miscarriage. I don't have any DC as yet. I'm really struggling emotionally at the moment. I'm sort of umming and ahhing about going to the GP about it, however I'm a bit worried about whether that would impact negatively on any adoption assessment in the future. Adoption is something I feel really positive about, but that doesn't mean I'm not grieving these losses and really struggling to maintain a brave face at the mo. I'm aware that if we did adopt there has to be a period of time between miscarriages and/or fertility treatment anyway, but was wondering how much grief over this is 'acceptable'. The rational part of my brain knows that knowing when to seek help and being able to do so would be a positive think in an adopter, but the irrational slightly depressed part is anxious about it. I imagine this is a fairly common set of circumstances so was just wondering what people's advice and experiences were.

Thanks

The rational part of your brain is 100% correct. Being indecisive is itself a depression symptom. Please seek help, especially counselling, to help you process the grief and deal with the depression.

You need to be able to deal with the emotions of the loss in order fir it not to adversely effect you in the future.

Personally I would stay away from medication and heal with therapy (professional or talking to your mum/friends/partner) and time...

I struggled for far too long after my miscarriages and ivf treatment. I would seek whatever help you can get. I eventually had a few sessions of therapy through the ivf clinic which really helped. I wouldn't hesitate in talking to your gp.
If you decide to go down the adoption route they will see you seeking help as a positive thing, they did in our case.
Good luck with your journey and give yourself time to heal.

Mintleaf agree with everyone here, get help! It is a positive thing to do and shows you know when to get help. I had anxiety in my 30s and was very happy that Cognitive Behavioural Therapy worked for me. There are all kinds of problems and all kinds of solutions but asking for help is the first step. It will not be seen as a weakness and I am pretty certain soldiering on in the face of depression would go against you.

Best wishes.