how do i go about finding someone

[disney07]

Hi does anyone know how to go about trying to find someone. I understand that she may not want anything to do with me and she got a family of her own, but i would love to meet her as she would be my sister. my mum passed away 18 months ago but a couple of weeks before she passed away mum told me about her but because she was ill i didnt want to ask her to many questions as she would get upset when ever we spoke of her, so i dont know a lot about her so havent got a lot to go on, but i cant help thinking about her. can anyone give me advice thanks

Do you know her full name? Friends Reunited might be a start? I have no experience at tracing people but bumping this in case someone else has. Good luck.

This is quite useful.

If you know her full name and a general area it is a good start.

What information do you have? DOB? Name? Where born? Sounds like a lot for you to have had to cope with while your Mum was so ill!

I think some of the adoption sites might offer a birth family search. I think you may be able to register your interest in getting touch with birth family with them.

Try googling BAAF, they may be able to help you.

Found this site for you, should be a good starting place.

The mother of an old boyfriend of mine re-unites birth parents with adopted children, so she might be able to help you. She's lovely, and counsels everyone involved. Her name is Ariel Bruce, and if she's still in business, you might be able to google her. Good luck!

Hi,

I found my partner's family 21 years after he found out he was adopted. He can't believe the info I found out for him. So if u want I could have a look for u.

thanks everyone for being so helpful i will try the sites you all recommended, but i dont really have a lot to go on only her date of birth and the name in which my mother give her at birth which i think would of been changed by her new parents. my nan passed away 16 weeks after my mum so she would of been the only other person i could of found out more information from, if it was the other way about and she tried to find us it would be quite easy for her as my dad still lives in the house where my mum give her up and i live at the house of where her father use to once live. I have two brothers but they dont seem quite as bothered about it as myself but i would love to find her all the same.

As a quick and easy step you can register on the adoption register (costs about £50 I think), so that if she is looking for you then she will be able to find you easily.

Recently the law changed and as a birth relative you now have the right to trace her, but she may decline contact with you. This is called a Section 98 Search, but you have to do it through an agency, and it is very expensive, (through Norcap in total £410-£435 if successful). details are here

Hope that helps. Let me know if you want any more information.

No advice on hwo to go about it but good luch. Dh managed to find his father in NZ and it was wonderful to watch their first meeting.

I saw a piece today in the paper about something similar and it reminded me that the SAlvation Army have a family search facility which I think has a very good reputation.