Talk me out of a 3rd....

[adoptmama]

Single mum, with 2 DC through adoption.

Am I crazy to have a 3rd?

Financially - a stretch but not impossible with current job (which I believe to be stable)

DC1 - in a good place. has anxiety and emotional issues but pretty well managed.
DC2 - some health problems, probably alcohol related. Manageable.

Biggest concern would be not having the time and energy (hello mid-40s I see you coming over the horizon!!) to do it again.

But can't stop hankering after a 3rd. I always said I wanted 3 and would have no problem being approved where I live.

What is your support network like?

How do your kids feel?

The need is out there and I expect you would cope but would life be better?

Good luck with the decision (my feeling is you do not really want to be talked out of it! ).

I'm single adoptmama and have recently adopted my third bye bye mid 40's

If you can cope do it! From an old fart with 5!!Bye bye mid 70's

lol, school, car and space no problem

main concerns are would i really have the time - would it be fair on the other 2 (age 7 and 4)? Can i spread myself between 3 kids? I know you don't know until you try it.

and money - how expensive are 3 compared with 2? (have all the old kids clothes etc so in terms on initial layout, few expenses: have cot, pram, clothing, shoes etc kept)

i guess in some ways the real issue is how will it affect our family - just the same doubts as adding number 2 really....

it's kind of the opposite to when I quit smoking (bad comparison i know) as in then I didn't want to, but knew i should. And this time I 'know' I shouldn't but want to.....

arrgh. tell me all the reasons it would be a bad move.

Ok - it would be bad because - more washing, - oh thats the only valid reason i can think of sorry! I have 3 and yes there is more to do , more housework, more honework help etc but to me its all outweighed by the good stuff- the extra kisses and cuddles , the pleasure felt when they acieve something - and knowing that even before they have stepped out of the house they have a ready made team - their siblings. Sorry !

And also - i really couldnt decide whther or not have a 3rd - as soon as i had her i knew i was done and i had closure! Thanks god - i would hate
To spend my life saying what if xx