just curious can social services

[OurMiracle1106]

Stop a former birth parent from having an abortion?

Although im on the implant, pill and use condoms coupled with the fact that our son was a miracle (was told I would need ivf but fell pregnant the same day) I know it's highly unlikely to happen. However it came up in conversation the other day. Can social services actually stop me from having an abortion? I don't honestly think I could go through a pregnancy knowing my child would be taken away at birth.

I'm glad you are having some counselling miracle you have been through such a difficult time

Nooooooooo social workers don't and wouldn't try to influence the decision around whether someone can have a termination or not. That is purely a medical decision. Why would social workers want to do that? Without meaning to sound too callous, it's better that a pregnancy is terminated from our perspective if the parents are dangerous or abusive or just unable to care for a baby, rather than another baby being born into the system.
If you got pregnant and wanted to keep it you would need a kick ass family solicitor and argue for parent and baby placement pending assessments. You probably stand as good a chance of getting that as anyone, if what you post about changes you have made/are making are true. Then the rest would be up to you.
Nobody would force you to carry an unwanted baby, honestly.

They are true and the adoption social worker has herself said I have come along way and am completely different to when she first met me. (made me emotional to hear)

Theres no reason that I can't have another child and keep it ONCE I'M HAPPY I'M IN A PLACE. the mental health professionals have said that it is a completely realistic goal. And they don't doubt that I can.

I also feel their "reservations about being able to interact with services" have been proven to be unfounded. (this was based on me not telling them my mum had cancer. I told them she was sick but at the time my mum herself didn't know what was wrong)

I also funnily enough didn't phone them as soon as I got the news she had passed (I was told on the Sunday at any rate) I sort of had other things to think about and seeing as they had said it weren't appropriate to tell my ds when she passed and care proceedings had concluded I didn't think their need was immediate

My mum was officially diagnosed 6 days before court I should add.

Could you discuss this with your counsellor?

Just as a random on the internet, the thought of someone trying for a baby with the intention of having an abortion if social services think they can't cope, worries me for all sorts of reasons. But I am not a counsellor so do not feel it is my place to express those reasons. Someone professionally qualified would be far better to talk this through with.

balloon I'm not trying for a baby. I use three forms of contraception. The implant the pill and condoms. Chances of all three failing at the same time are slim. However still there is a chance of getting pregnant.

When I am better I want to pay to have the assessments done again so that if I want a baby I know I can look after them

Have you been medically advised to are the pill while you have an implant? That seems unsafe to me.

I have been advised to take both. I was bleeding after my implant was replaced and unfortunately it was making me very sick (palpitations passing out heart beating too fast skin boiling hot to touch shivering etc) I'm only on the pill for three months and was told it was fine. I also use condoms so the risks of pregnancy are minimal (though obviously not impossible)

I am dating and I do have a friend with benefits. I think he is pretty safe though. No violent past this time. Has a part time job and is part time at university. Doesnt take drugs or have alcohol issues.

I now risk assess people (and my best friend confirms assessment) I'm learning to work on my gut instinct and not need to risk assess

My son is 15 months old and been with social worker since he was born I only under social worker due to having =mental health but I havent been back to my depression for ages and I got learning disability, I'm doing fine and making sure I work with social worker.
But I'm worried as I was dating a guy and I suppose to start my period this weekend either tomorrow or Saturday if I don't come on I might be pregnant but I dont want to be pregnant so I'm deciding to have abortion but I'm worried if the GP or if I make appointment at hospital for the abortion they might tell social worker

Try not to worry until you know there is a pregnancy to worry about.
Why are you worried about social services finding out, they won't make you have a baby you don't want. They may even agree that's best for you, though I can't imagine its ethical to say that to you.
This is your decision but please make sure that you have support, its not easy to do this on your own

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If you had taken the trouble to read, I was responding to a new poster

Yes I can see that but as its on the end of a very old thread other ppl may not realise and respond to the original op. I was just pre warning ppl before they responded to the op not yourself.