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saphi · 17/08/2006 21:30

I am at the early stages of adoption at present
We have had our first home visit and havnt hheard anything since is anyone else in the same situation

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bran · 17/08/2006 21:36

Hi saphi, Dh and I adopted a little boy just over a year ago, there are other adopters on MN and a few prospective adoptors too. I remember it was quite exciting at the start of the approval process, but pace yourself because it takes a long time, there's lots of waiting around especially after approval in our case. That said I hope you enjoy the process, we got on really well with our social worker which made the whole thing much easier.

I found Mumsnet great while we were going through approval and waiting to be matched. I picked up lots of useful parenting things, and I was able to discuss the big issues at playgroup with other parents.

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saphi · 17/08/2006 21:41

thanks for that and as a new member to mumsnet I think I will already find this site useful.
We are waiting to go on a course for a couple of days, after failed attempts at IVF I can wait a few months for this and hopefully we will have a possitive end

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beemail · 18/08/2006 13:25

Hi Saphi we have 2 children both adopted when fairly young. Best of Luck to you - hope all goes well with your homestudy

april74 · 18/08/2006 20:16

hi saphi, we are also going through the adoption process, we are nearing the end and waiting to go to panel, there seems to be one hitch after another with the social worker at the moment, just waiting for her to finish typing up the report then we should get a panel date quite quickly.

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saphi · 20/08/2006 02:49

thanks beemail and april 74 for the notes of hope this is the first time i feel i have been able to talk to someone going through the same thing

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suejonez · 20/08/2006 22:18

Hi saphi - I'm about to travle overseas to adopt (but smae process as UK until matching stage) I had 3 failed IVF's before choosing adoption. It is a long frustrating road but the final stages are so exciting.

I love Mumsnet, it makes me feel like a mum when I'm not yet!

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saphi · 22/08/2006 19:18

Hi suejonez
good luck with your adoption and I know what you mean about mumsnet

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Coolmama · 22/08/2006 19:48

Hi sujonez - I remember you sorting out the vitamin supplements and things - am so excited for you - please let us know how it all goes - and much joy to you too !!

harry6644 · 15/01/2007 21:02

Hi i have gone through the process of adoption as a single adopter........got our final court date now......so looking forward to that and then getting on without social workers.

Any adoptersin yorkshire area.

readysalted · 20/01/2007 10:28

Hi Harry ime an adoptive mum and in yorkshire

ThisTime · 21/01/2007 20:44

Hi Ready & Harry

Im about to start the fostering process as a single foster and live in yorkshire too - Leeds. Just wanted to say hello, hope it goes well Harry.

Flower3554 · 22/01/2007 17:15

Hi ThisTime, just heard that the baby I've been on hold to foster was born this morning. A little boy 6lb 10oz. I will probably bring him home with me following a meeting tomorrow.

I've been on hold since before Christmas and I was beginning to climb the walls

ThisTime · 22/01/2007 19:53

Hi Flower

So pleased for you that its finally here. Is that the right thing to say as prob not pleasing for the mother of the baby - but hope you know what i mean .

Please let me know what happens. What happend with naming the little boy - gosh i bet i sound so naive!!

Ive just found out that the agency coming to see me is one used by another family that lives round the corner from me, so they have invited me round for a cuppa and a natter. They had a little girl from 5 days old and they have now adopted her just after her second birthday.

Not sure if i said on my other thread that i currently work 16 hours a week and just been told today that our jobs no longer exist and have gone to Colchester

harry6644 · 22/01/2007 19:55

hi ready salted
hope things are going well for you, how long you been adopter, where in yorkshire are you?

Good to chat to you all, and those who are fostering i really admire you its nit something i could do.

Flower3554 · 22/01/2007 21:12

Hi again ThisTime,

As a general rule The baby's Mum usually names the baby, though very often, if the little one is young enough, adopters often change the name to something they prefer, though just as often they incorparate the birth Mums choice in with theirs.

I know, its hard to know whether to say you're pleased for a foster carer as it means someones sorrow is your joy but I think its ok to say.

Also to bear in mind is that as a foster carer I often work with parents who are being assessed to care for their baby by themselves eventually. They don't always get placed with adopters.

I am quite excited (says she jumping up and down) as this little boy will be our eightieth
placement, something of a mini-milestone

readysalted · 22/01/2007 22:15

Hi Harry we have a dd who is the light of our lives she is 3 and she came home when she was 4.5 months we live in north yorkshire

ThisTime · 23/01/2007 20:56

Hi Flower - how did the meeting go?

Flower3554 · 23/01/2007 21:25

Hi ThisTime,
Not well I'm afraid. The social worker had gone to court to get a care order to remove baby from Mum but as she has a learning disability the court decided she needed more adequate legal help and so the case goes back to court tomorrow.

I'm quite deflated now, but, hopefully he will be here tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

ThisTime · 23/01/2007 21:50

Oh no - I'm sorry to hear that, you were all geared up as well and probably nervous.

Everythign is crossed for you x

ThisTime · 24/01/2007 19:55

any news flower?

Flower3554 · 24/01/2007 22:21

Hi ThisTime, After a very long day baby finally arrived at 7.30pm tonight. He is tiny! He weighs only 6lb 7ozs and looks absolutely lost in the babygro I've put him in for bed.

Tomorrow is full of midwife visit, social worker visit, my social worker is also coming to fill in placement forms, its going to be hectic, but I love it.

ThisTime · 25/01/2007 21:15

Wow 6lb 7 - my ds was 9 lb 10.5oz and two weeks early!! Have you stopped snuggling him yet?

How did your first night go? Was today hectic then?

Think i mentioned in another message that a couple in our area are with the company I have applied to - well i have been to thier house today for a chat (that lasted forever, in a good way - i felt so naive!!!). The point I'm trying to get to (i always go off on a tangent) is that they are reccomending me to their social worker as they have a visit tomorrow. Apparently this will help speed things along slightly quicker.

Flower3554 · 25/01/2007 21:43

Last night was hard work as the little one seems to cat-nap for 15 minutes at a time rather than feeding and sleeping until the next feed as my last placement did

He has seemed a little more settled today and is starting to feed with a bit of interest, he was just mouthing the bottle and taking very little.

Good news on the recommendation front, every little helps

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