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Feeling like I need to remove myself from the situation!

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Buster51 · 09/03/2014 13:59

Afternoon all!

Oh just one of those days so I thought I'd post to you lovely lot.

DH is home for the weekend again (has been last 3 weekends). I feel I'm going insane!

It seems on the Sundays of his returns (no idea why Sundays just feels that's what is emerging!) DS just isn't himself. More grumpy, whiny, trying to get reactions out of me using DH etc. For whatever reason this doesn't seem to happen on the Saturdays?!

To try & prevent it, when DH comes home I've been ensuing DS & I still spend quality time together (yesterday's was watching DVDs / playing with his toys in a den we built whilst DH watched footie!) as well as baked cakes. As I sense it's him not liking his return despite loving playing with DH. I also laugh & smily happily whenever they play, to show that DH is not to be used to get a reaction out of me.

But he just ends up relentless with it! The hard part is DH doesn't see it half of the time / doesn't think we should make an issue out of it!

It's just little things like whispering so only I can hear that he wants me to move, or going "LOOK I'm doing this/cuddling daddy" in a 'over pleasing 'voice' he has.

But I can only ignore it sadly so long before I end up becoming moody, sometimes (shameful :-()

Please can someone advise if I'm doing something wrong here! When I sense he's anxious I become anxious. It's to the point I dislike DH sitting close to me as I feel it all started this morn when DH popped his leg on mine while all 3 of us were watching TV (possibly wasn't but that's all I can think of!)

Aside from this, which has been an "issue" since day one, DS is settling lovely, we are beginning to have a lovely relationship.

Any help/advice is much appreciated!

(Sorry I have rambled / if it doesn't make sense!)

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Buster51 · 13/03/2014 10:27

Thank you Scandinavianprincess, yes I certainly do put a lot of probably unnesessary pressures on myself, I am a worrier! Something I'm working on :-)

I am doing my best & what I know so I hope in time he is able to express & share his feelings with me :)

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