what support do you get?If any?

[mygorgeouschild]

namechanged for this, im a regular.

my gorj child has ASD , physical probs , drugs and alcohol in womb,and a million other things, and was abused in every way till I became mum when child was 4.

child is now a teen (reluctant to state gender for security purposes) and memories getting clearer of past life, plus hormones plus current housing probs we have.we have moved several times because of valid reasons but can not settle anywhere, great for a child with probs like child has.

are adoption agencies supposed to have a duty of care towards adopted children and also to ensure they are settled? isn't that what the government say?

we don't get ANY halp or support from Ad agency at all, they say 'your child, your responsibilty'. im now a single parent as ex couldn't cope with childs meltdowns and problems and left me to it. tbh we're better of without him, but we are alone with no other support at all. not even childrens services bother much.

child does not have any contact whatsoever from abusers, child was virtually thrown away and brought up in a childrens home till I met child.

im really wondering about this duty of care and their attitude of washing their hands of child?
thanks.

im going back to my regular mn name now for other threads, ill look in on this again later, id rather not be asked any more questions as ive stated pretty much whats going on in OP, but will come back to this name if needs be, and ill say thanks in advance for any concrete answers .

ps well done all whove adopted, you've done a wonderful thing.

Didn't want to read and run. I'm sure other people more knowledgable than me will be along soon.

Do you have a post adoption team you can talk to. We haven't petitioned court yet so still see other SW, but we've been led to believe that once she is formally ours, there is a 'post adoption team' who we can contact if we need further support.

You do need lots of support would start by contacting your local Parent Partnership who will listen and sure will be able too advise you further you can not be alone. Also speak too school you can get support, the New Premium plus for educational support for Adopted children £1900 a year would go some way too help available via application too your child's school . As you say there are pre natal alcohol issues there are lots of support groups for adoptive parents in the same situation as your self . See www.fasaware.uk for list of support groups there may be one in your area., contact fasawareuk and they will send you a information pack I think.

when you say adoption agency - have you spoken to your adoption team at your local council or the LA/VA you adopted through because I'm pretty certain that it will be your LA who will now have responsibility.

You do need lots of support would start by contacting your local Parent Partnership who will listen and sure will be able too advise you further you can not be alone. Also speak too school you can get support, the New Premium plus for educational support for Adopted children £1900 a year would go some way too help available via application too your child's school . As you say there are pre natal alcohol issues there are lots of support groups for adoptive parents in the same situation as your self . See www.fasaware.uk for list of support groups there may be one in your area., contact fasawareuk and they will send you a information pack I think.

Unfortunately this child will not be entitled to the new pupil premium as the child was adopted before 2005 which for some bizarre reason is the cut of date.
All agencies should have a post adoption support team but I think it is a post code lottery. Our PAS team is absolutely rubbish, no help whatsoever.
Op. contact yours though, you never know they may be helpful.

If you haven't yet approached your PAS team (the LA in which you live has responsibility for your PAS, not the agency which placed your child if it was a different agency) then try them. Some are good, some are awful, sadly it's a total postcode lottery. Whatever responsibilities they are supposed to have, some teams will try their best to duck out of everything

If the Post Adoption Support team are not helpful, then does your child have any issues/needs for which you might get some help if you were referred to CAMHS by your GP?

I second fasaware and other FASD organisations may have some advice, or support groups

Just to say I sympathise as I have found support very hard to access and my dd also does not qualify for the pupil premium plus because of the random cut off according to which adoption act you fall under. This is indeed bizarre and I can find no explanation of why this is like this anywhere. I also find the government's line of "we are so in favour of adoption and are introducing all sorts of support" really irritating when the support does not seem to exist for us all.

Hi. Thanks for replies. Lilka CAHMS cant cope.
I don't think these people have the traning and understanding for FAS. did anyone see the Wright show this morn? they were talking about alcohol in pregnancy.

Rob wotsisface from Im a celebrity made good points from a mans view.

services know and deal with with, say, downs syndrome, asd, etc but FASD is still ignorant.
and everything Tigersare said too. bloody scameron again.

thing is child has more than FASD. cant really say much more at the risk of outing myself.

and that the person the child grew inside just walks around without a care in the world yet us adopted parents are left to deal with it, no, we're not after a medal for 'taking a child on', im sure you've all fallen in love with your children as I did, no other reason, but were just left to it but IYKWIM, why cant the services/support groups 'throw us a one' once in a while?

my poor darling has this condition for the rest of their life and they certainly had no choice in the matter.

thankls again for replies. Im very angry that the services don't do what they say on the tin.

for all of us, and others with SN children too.whats the point of them if they never deliver?

going back to regular nn so ill pop back here soon! thanks.

You say your child has more than FASD , that is correct, as it is a spectrum it encompasses ASD and ADHD. We have joined FASDtrust they are excellant and if you contact them they will endeavour to help.
Keep on fighting.