introductions

[Inthebeginning]

Our s.wrker is pretty certain we are going to get our lo that was first mentioned on Christmas eve.
she mentioned in passing that (as he lives a long way away) we would do half of the intros where lo is, so we move there. and then half up here and lo's foster carers move here with lo.

Has anyone done it like this? I'd got it into my head that we'd spend week living near lo and then bring them back. An adopter on our course said it happened like that. But then if lo was closer it would be foster carers and lo coming to the house for part of intro would it? I don't know what my questions even are!

Ive only ever heard of the AP travelling and staying near the FCers. The length of the introductions depends on the age of the child. The longest wounds usually be about 2 weeks, say with a 7 year old

I'm guessing your child is a lot younger?

When I bridged 2children to adoption a distance away from mine,the adoptees came and lived near for about three days and then I moved near to where they lived with an option to stay for a week and slowly introduce the child to their new home,the first child only needed me for 2 days and the other for three days,returning to me for 2 nights and then they were ready to go,both were toddlers and both adoption have been successful,good luck in your journey.

Hi there, our DS lived very far away, we spent a week there with arranged visits each day (luckily DH family live there so we had a place to stay), some days we took him out for the day, others we went to FCs for his bedtime/bath time routine etcetc, he stayed over with us for one night (they arranged our accommodation for the night he stayed over), and he then moved up with us the following week.

FC didn't come to our home for the intro, but we do wish she had as we feel it would have helped him with the 'passing over'.

I hope that helps :)

We travelled for our intros.
We spent 8 days there and spent most of every day with our LO.
On day 9 we said our goodbyes and came home.
My only concern about moving FC and LO to lodgings would be that LO would be staying in a strange house for a couple of days with FC and then coming to yet another strange place when you bring them home rather than a straight shift from FC to new home. Just my opinion.

I know, I'm not sure about it to be honest. lo would be 18 months when (if) he comes to us. Meet his s workers next Monday so will ask them why (in a better way obviously! )

FP here yes happened a few times intro's usual 5 days here then 3 days at AP's house with me staying in hotel and child at AP's home ., after child/baby settles each day I leave at appropriate times., sometimes just after an hour but are available on the phone or too pop round if needed, has always worked out very well.

Sorry forgot too say the pre adoption information, photo's, app book's, video's of new parents and the new home , child's new room are as important . Was that good one time child greeted new parent's at the door as Mummy and Daddy just from recognition of prep work, was a very heart warming moment.

thanks fas that's interesting ro hear. was that with a younger children? (ours is going to be18months)

Ages from 9 months too 2 years , one mentioned 20 months , we also give large memory box, complete weekly log diary (from date of placement) lots and lots of photo's, PowerPoint photo presentation., and personal life story book. These help too fill on the holes and gaps which child and AP's miss prior too placement. Good luck

Our DS is 4, we felt that pre adoption him having lots of photos of his new home/bedroom etc really helped, as he knew exactly where to go when he 1st entered the house.

We were also given a large memory box from previous FC with lots of photos etc. We have been pushing for the log diary just to help us with any behavioral issues we face to see if they were there in FC, and his life story book will be worked on very soon (he will help with this for his understanding). I think it all depends on the age of the child.